at various points during my “adulthood” i’ve only fantasized about my happily ever after. finding her, settling down, getting hitched although not entirely concept of the road to getting there. this had been something i wanted but had put nothing towards getting there.

now, perhaps it’s a lot more difficult for me to get there. i had done what i thought was right by waiting, however, i never dated. now i’m one of many eligible men who may well be looking for a mate but in a bad environment.

then there’s this:

And that brings me to another point: Who in the HELL said that all men MUST be married by a certain age, or at all. I think it’s a sign of common sense for a man to say that he’s not going to commit his life to a woman until he’s ready and sure. Also, I think it’s a sign of emotional intelligence for a man to say that he doesn’t know IF he wants to be married and he just wants to go with the flow and see what materializes. And I really respect dudes that are self-aware enough to realize that they don’t want to be married at all, because making your significant other’s life hell just to appease social norms is ignorant and stupid.
to be sure i’ve had issues with the whole dating issue. i’ve had people who decided to cheap shot me saying they needed to get me laid. a lot of people have had the need to needle me on this issue.
yes i realize this article is about marriage not sex. a lot of men out there are about the nookie not necessarily keeping a mate. i suppose this is never what i wanted and there are quite a few people i met who never seem to understand that. or perhaps they’d respect me if i’ve actually dated. if i’ve dated i’d get nookie.
at the same time, i realize that there are those young men who only think about nookie. think that’s the only goal, even think that every man should seek it. in fact i seems getting nookie is a right of passage for any man. does it have to be?
no more than getting married and having children before you’re truly ready. at the same time you’re wanting to have adult relationships with members of the opposite sex.

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