Last summer, I saw a movie True to the Game. It wasn’t that good of a film that could be a described as a gangster romance. A young woman named Gina trying to finish college with a major of English literature attracts the interest of a very violent drug dealer Qadir who’s looking to leave that life. Unfortunately something drags him back into it and on occasion Gina is involved (for example kidnapped and held for ransom) and is left screaming when a rival drug dealer looking to make his mark shoots her boyfriend to death.
It lets me know women can fall for almost anything. She was guarded with him at first, however, she valued him for giving her HIS time. Their relationship was passionate with it’s own starts & stops as with almost every relationship. Ultimately before his murder she was ready to tie the knot with him as he attempts to leave the criminal underworld. I was amused when some young woman who was thirsty for him was often blown off until he finally tells her it’s over and was later prevented from confronting him by one of his right hand men.
The story for this film seems disjointed and as a sense of closure part of me wanted to see Qadir’s killer himself consumed by revenge on the streets. Instead we see Gina mourning although she finally has the ability to leave her neighborhood behind after effectively being ejected from Qadir’s fancy house by his distant mother. It was troubling to me that Gina’s family seemed a lot more accepting of Qadir even if they knew what he was doing. perhaps that’s just reality.
I hated this movie, because I hate the idea of a woman falling for a man who is a criminal. Of course what she fell for was his soft side, however, if he’s involved with drug dealing he can’t be that soft. In the case of Qadir and Gina it resulted in her kidnapping because his rivals knew how to get to him, and of course as happens in that world you have to find away to “get your lick back” so to speak. Alas the cycle continues until Qadir gets his later.
Also I don’t want to be too unfair here, Qadir has the right to leave that lifestyle. Actually in real life I would root for someone who left the life of crime. I may never view him as an honest man after this, however, it’s a good thing when anyone leaves the underworld so that they can live honestly. I respect that and perhaps I shouldn’t be hard on Gina for choosing to be with him.
Then again at the same time some women like to save men. Bad boys need saving unfortunately it doesn’t always take a woman for a man to decide that it’s time to leave that life. Unfortunately women who want to be the savior get hurt fooling around with those men who are in the underworld. Conversely if an underworld man has a fearsome reputation and likely a lot of money there are women who care little about saving their man but very willing to take advantage of the perks of being an underworld kingpin’s girlfriend.
I know that’s a lot of analysis and most of this has little to do with me. Besides I’m no criminal and have no need to be one. I could whine & talk about girls to start back in my high school days would overlook me for the thugs. The again at that age what do the girls know – especially if they’ve been exposed to that underworld life.
Regardless my goal with any woman – especially the ones who aren’t of that age where they wouldn’t be influenced by a bad boy or a monied criminal – is to be the best man I can be. I don’t have to be a thug, then again I need not be a nice guy either. Perhaps I can still live my life with conviction and hopefully be with a woman who who respects me and loves me for my honest convictions.