a loser at 20 is a loser at 40

i have to admit this long article about a 36-year-old virgin on tv was harsh. may somewhat describe my situation. though with some effort it needs not become a done deal. i’d like to think we can all change our situation whatever that might be.


more original photos. what do you think?

Olloclip-iPhone-7-21 i’ve been going around using my iPhone to take some shots around chicago. i want to punch this blog up with shots that i’ve taken. i wish i can share with you some archival photos at least those that i have never before published. time will tell on that.

although to be sure i can share more current photographs of the city as i see it. perhaps you may see hints of where i formerly work or even where i do work now. to be sure i may never identify any of those places as such but you may see them.

oh not just places i have worked certainly places i have frequented over time. i hope you enjoy the new presentation.

besides once a commenter suggested seeing a photo montage from the “mid-thirties virgin” although now it’s the “almost 40 virgin” at this point.

to not act

i found these series of blogs by chance. i have a number of jackie’s in my background, women whom the opportunity was there and did little. a handful are women where there were some effort, however, it often blew up in my face.

i thought you’d be interested in these experiences. the author in question there’s uncertainty if he was a virgin. however it’s likely if the stories all began while in college and by the time you get to the final part he likely has plenty of experience with women.

so go read those three year old posts by panama jackson over at VSB




so what’s in a name?

you know many of the places i discuss especially a workplace are based on real locales. i don’t like discussing the actually names of these places and often choose to keep it vague.

for example while i have been a college graduate for a number of years i still have chosen not to name the college only the state. allow me to change that in this post.mcg

when referring to that liberal arts college that i attended in georgia, it will referred to as “mission college”, a fictitious college in the film school daze directed by spike lee. i recommend that movie it’s good and addressed college life for young black people. it also has some messages therein.

btw, it turns out there is a real mission college located in california, but i had no idea about it until i looked for anything related to the mission college from the movie school daze.


the all-girls school will be referred to as “hillman college”. “hillman” is the fictitious college shown in the tv sitcom a different world. it’s a spin-off the cosby show which portrayed one of the daughters of bill cosby’s tv family going away to school. unfortunately that character dropped out and the show carried on with a different focus.

as for all the other places say the community college i attended before leaving for “mission” i haven’t decided an appropriate pseudonym. perhaps i will as there are some stories to tell from that period of time. indeed i’ve told one and it won’t be the only one although not the only one involving women.

perhaps while i’m at it i can add names to the various place i have worked for. that’ll be a project for later. perhaps a new name for “the show” and the dine-in show i briefly worked at.

also a new name for the current job, i had thought about what i wanted to name that place. even thought about using the brand name of grocery stores that are long gone. to be determined for that.


img_3181recently i look at my wordpress app on my  phone and it was noted that i have achieved my one year anniversary blogging at wordpress. one year and technically i wrote a few posts on my old blogger site. regardless a year ago i moved over to wordpress.

i decided to dip my toe in the world of virginity blogging. of course i’ve talked a lot about things like my work history, my adventures in social networking, etc and all through the schtick of being a real adult male virgin. it seems i’ve whined and complained about things during most of the year and showed how things have changed for the better.

now every now and then when i log onto wordpress i get notifications on different “achievements”. i got x amount of likes on this day, x amount of comments, etc. laudable achievements for a blog that isn’t exactly going viral. in fact it was something that was my intention however it’s something that i’d rather not happen at this point.

all the same, in this whole year i can say that i haven’t had many personal achievements. i can say i got a raise at work for the first time in LIFE. i could say for the first time in life i finally got a full-time job. perhaps i’m much closer to being a “hotshot” manager at a job. great things that have happened for me for the past year and a half. mostly happened before i started blogging.

then i realize how much closer i am to missing my goal – to lose my virginity before i turn 40. to at least find the right woman to ultimately marry – or this mythical her. to become him and be the man who can attract that woman. i realize i haven’t an idea.

well we can explore that in year two. yeah i can still talk about work. perhaps i’ll still talk about the connections with women who could be the ones i want to attract. either way year two won’t be much about the past – as much as i have little issue with dwelling on things. it will be about progress – the future.


sometimes i like to rewrite posts. basically it’s just to reword and adjust some grammar. it may not always be precise but the goal is definitely to cut down on some of the errors that may be in the writing.

sometimes in spite of my writing skill i fail to do one main thing which is proofread. i’m never under any illusions that i’m the greatest writer up there with any literary giants. however my process is somewhat like there this (see what i did there).

some posts you read here had been written in advance. perhaps i’ve been working on them for days or weeks and that gives me time to make them as perfect as i possible can. of course perfect being the goal that often may not even come close to that level.

another part of the process is sometimes i just go ahead and write a post. just bang it out in a matter usually of minutes although sometimes it might take a day before it’s ready to publish.

so there you have it perhaps one of two ways to create content for this blog about a mid 30s virgin. perhaps i should at least shoot for taking a day to write a post and ultimately post same day. or take more than a day to write a really good post that’s worth writing. what this means is i never just post something that’s less than what’s worth putting out and thus worth reading by you.

that somewhat explains the post about missy that has suddenly popped back up. believe me that is not the only post that needs some corrections. of course this is one of those posts written up in a matter of minutes and ultimately posted after completion.