New Blog

I haven’t started posting yet, my goal is to write more topical posts there going forward. Let’s see what new adventures we might have there.

I would like you to start following that blog if you’re very interested. It’s aptly named for a reason. 🙂

Another blog in the future?

I’ve been thinking about starting another blog. Perhaps when I’ve settled on it there will be a link posted here. Likely it will start publishing by the time of this blog’s 5th anniversary.

What is expected to be seen there is more topical posts. Things that are really incompatible for this blog and there are some posts here that aren’t very compatible. Hopefully there will be some tie-ins to my YouTube channel.

I’ll be happy to let you know once I set the place up. This blog isn’t going anywhere if you like seeing updates from my life as it unfolds.

Is a Late Bloomer Allowed Bad Choices…even if on Purpose?

I also consider myself a “late bloomer” and I think you’re allowed good or bad choices. I wouldn’t make the same decisions that “Dateless Man” would. Then again or would I?

My bad choice when it comes to women would be regarding youth. I’ve explored being a so-called “sugar daddy”. Except that I don’t make sugar daddy money so the odds of that is very low. Regardless having been an older student at Mission College among younger students, especially female students I’d still want to thing I can handle this.

Also, I’ve worked with younger women and still do at a grocery store. I’d entertain it although I know that I have to deal with immaturity. No matter how I could relate to women who are say of college age at least I have to accept that yours truly would be too old for them.

So I may judge Dateless Man’s choices, but if he feels it’s worth giving someone who isn’t his type an opportunity he should. I may not do that so easily, however, I have my own wants when it comes to women.

What do you think?

The New Adventures of Dateless-Man!

Once again a month has gone by without another installment from the Dateless-Man. It seems to commonly happen around the summer for various reasons; I’d been faithful about typing up at least one post a month since July 2018, when I’d missed that June. Granted, that was also the month where things regarding my still unresolved eviction battle with the slumlord started to hit full steam. I am pleased to see so many new readers are checking out what I usually dub “My Lonely Man Blog.” While most of you are from the United States, WordPress’ tabulators are detecting hits from Canada, the U.K. and even India! I guess it shows that some of the issues I have are truly universal for some men, and people in general. Anyway, we’re more than midway past August so I’d better whip something up now!

As much as it is difficult to focus…

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Race & MGTOW


Often when writing this blog I write this as racially neutral as possible. Of course if anyone is curious about my race – as much as I wanted to de-emphasize this – there are some hints to this. For those who know what to look for the evidence is right in front of you. Regardless, I often stay away from the issue of race though only in the context of potential mates because I could always date someone different from my background.

With this said this post from Shannon in Kansas City blog declared MGTOW “white people’s business”. She further declares that any black man that declares themselves MGTOW are only following a movement that really is about average white men expressing their own frustrations with educated white women. Educated white women have more options and also could choose to remain single if they find no compatible partners. Educated white women could also choose to focus on their careers instead of just seeking a compatible mate.

The reason why any man chooses to go their own way is varied. For me, I hadn’t always had much luck as far as dating and these days instead of focusing on finding that woman I just try to improve myself. Improving myself includes the job, but certainly it means having some social goals as it’s one reason why I missed out on that time when I should’ve met that woman.

So basically MGTOW isn’t as simple as average white men frustrated with the achievements of educated white women. My observation of MGTOW has often revolved around for example men being hurt by a woman they had relationships with. Also men commonly believe women have it easy in the world. As far as society here in America at least women have it easy especially when it comes to divorces, courts will generally be more generous to a divorcee than to a man who’s marriage is broken up. It might be as far as alimony, division of assets, or even who gets the children.

I would dare say the black men seen in a video from a MGTOW channel seen on this blog last month illustrated a group of men who are going their own way. They have their own reasons for going their own way if they term their journey in that way. Perhaps Shannon’s post could just as easily be about those men.

So to speak for myself I don’t have disdain for women. I hope to meet the right woman in the future. I don’t begrudge an educated woman and desire one for myself as I’m educated also. My reasons to wave the MGTOW flag isn’t the same as on any YouTube channel or facebook page.

Also to comment on this:

There are a lot of problems in the Black community and I think that Black men should focus their energy on something other than disdain for women. Even if they don’t want to marry or involve themselves with women Black men have much bigger fish to fry than MGTOW concerns. For example, I think that inner city crime is a more pressing matter. How about all that police brutality? Black men simply don’t have the time.

Police brutality and inner city crime are important. What about fatherless children? What about a quality education for children? Why aren’t black men and women getting married to give their black sons & daughters a stable family and home?

Disdain for women no, for me the state of relationships between men and women are as easily an issue to worry about as issues Shannon mentions for example. So as I go my own way, it’s important to just as easily look at the state of relationships between men and women. Perhaps there is a reason for black men going MGTOW.

My 2¢ as always.


I share this post because, there is a modern day disappointment that happened recently. This involved an interview I mentioned in another post which came and went. It started off shaky and got some great feedback, however, I didn’t get the job.

So in this past post I started off talking about the handful of mgmt or higher level interviews I’ve had over the years. Looks as if I’m still looking for that opportunity and back then I decided I wasn’t going to stake everything on it. So that’s what my mindset is now.

I’m more relieved that that process is over than upset that it didn’t happen. On the other hand it’s causing me to re-evaluate how I pursue better positions. That means I need to step up my game, this time around I just didn’t show the polish that is possible with yours truly.

Perhaps in situations like that if you want something you have to re-evaluate how to get to where you need to be. That’s what’s also on my mind now. And I don’t necessarily mean that it has to be with “Fresh Foods”.

Someone gave me the great advice of make some mistakes, fall on your face. Well I’m learning that lesson right now and like I’ve said a few times this year, I’ll never know if I don’t try.

In writing that post a few years ago, I wrote about Anthony – who wasn’t yet referred to as “The Hustler“. I put out a post on facebook to mark the interview and guess who writes a message of good luck with a question about what I have going on. Communication black out be damned he still wants to connect even if I show no interest in reconnecting. It’s just an example of how my mind shifted over the years on him.

Finally, I think this song fits. You’d have to click through to listen to it. It was the main theme for the last James Bond picture, Writing’s on the Wall by Sam Smith. Great song and fitting for what I have been writing about back then and the current situation now.

Feeling No Love

i’m going to start about four years ago before i get to the main point of this post. four years ago was the start of my two year long job hunt which ended….two years ago. i started essentially in summer 2012 and then ended by fall of 2014.

what kicked this period off in earnest was a management position at a neighborhood theater that i had frequented for years. the company was owned by a woman who it seemed wanted to do right by the community. it seemed we had a good interview and expected to get the job.

basically a friend of mine – anthony – put it in my head that this was a done deal, he was also involved in this process as he wanted to work for this particular company also. while i had nothing but seemingly good news regarding my interview he responded with shock…

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How not to Wind up a 40-year-old Virgin (or a 40-year old who has had lots of sex, but is still desperately lonely)

That is quite a headline you see there. Have no sex and be desperately lonely or have plenty of sex and be desperately lonely. I suppose there is a difference, but then who wants to be lonely? I don’t want to be lonely, but then what do we do about it?

Ending January strong

As we close out this month which has been very cold in Chicago. Not that unsual, however it has me longing for more warmer locales during this winter. This blog has gotten over 1000 likes. Current tally is 1058 though not reflected in the screencap below.img_5948

I also wanted to note that I end this month continuing a consecutive posting streak on this blog. Though at this point with this post it’ll be extended to 13 14 days I screencapped this two days ago. 😛


Also I should add many of the top posts in the sidebar were published this month. Thank you for your likes and your comments. I don’t know if I want to keep this “furious” schedule during February though my plans now are expected to be as close to “Valentine’s Day” oriented as possible. Of course nestled with some other subjects too.

I want to observe some milestones from last year with regards to my former job at “The Hole”, however, let’s let the clock turn into February before executing those plans.


Stand Up for You — The Unedited Version of Being Single & Christian

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It’s worth sharing this and especially since HarleyQ2 has been something of a constant presence on this blog. The lesson here is no one else can stand up for you, but you. Bottom line!

Feeling No Love

why am i sharing this? i say this is a lesson worth learning. know your worth and stand up for you.

As singles, It is easy to settle for scraps Be a dirty secret Bargain for things that have an equivalent worth of a penny Allow others to take advantage Struggle to maintain healthy boundaries If you are not careful, allow someone to chip away at your value Compromise on the respect and love you deserve Guilt […]

via Stand Up for You — The Unedited Version of Being Single & Christian

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Accountability: Owning Your Mistakes

Hurt people, hurt people.

If that’s not real talk! This young lady talks about losing her friends realizing that she had to re-evaluate herself.

Perhaps I myself have lost people I had considered friends through my actions alone. And yes some of them were to last a season, however, some probably left me behind because of who I was at one point in time. It’s OK to let go, it’s also OK to be honest with yourself.

The Perks of Me

Hurt people, hurt people. I believe I heard this saying for the first time as a senior in high school. I won’t say that I didn’t understand what it meant, however I didn’t take it serious. I wasn’t hurt (at least I didn’t think so) and no one was hurting me. That was my mindset at that time. And at that time in life, you couldn’t do much to change anything I had my mind made up on. But what I failed to realize is literally at the same time I was refusing to hear and fully comprehend that statement, I was hurting everyone around me. And it would take years for me to even notice.

This past year, I lost just about every friend I considered close. These weren’t associates, they were my family. I had welcomed and become content with the idea that they would be there forever…

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Is a lady’s virginity more important than that of a man? Does virginity, whether for females or males a guarantee success in marriage? These and so many more questions arose after a seemingly controversial topic on the *Benefits of Virginity*.

via Male’s Virginity – Is it really necessary? — Simply Answers