the one-off foe is back

IMG_0998in continuing to wrap up the storyline about my time at “the show” i’m going to revisit that one-off foe missy. then we may explore one more time what happened with her good buddy candace who decided that “i need friend” during her time trying to talk to me.

for a good number of years missy had left me with some unease. missy was a young woman of no more than 19-20 and was aggressive. it would be attributed to her age more than anything. it may just be her natural inclination.

evidence of her aggression to start she was very take change. my gut tells me that she wanted to be a manager and someone on mgmt level put that idea in her head. with this in mind she got herself involved in situations that required the presence of a manager. not only that there were situations where i pushed back and she didn’t handle this very well. she would get pissed though remembers that she could run to a manager and hopefully settle it. only thing is the more she engaged in that behavior the more i’d just withdraw from her.

with this in mind one situation that i’ve only heard about from one of the supervisors at work involved a call from one of the auditoriums at work. an associate called for a manager to their theater and missy was the one who responded to the call. talk about being very take charge and certainly a case of well this is the position she wanted. she was very willing to act the part even if she never got the position before she quit.

now this leads me to one reason i think she started power tripping especially when i used my sarcasm to push back against her. rumors had been going around not long before or after she had left that allegedly she was having an affair with the house manager. i suppose that when you’re flirting and banging some things are said that may or may not happen in this case i’m going to make you a supervisor.


anyway when henry left the theater – close to three years after missy left – he decided to repeat this rumor with me and a newer coworker on a trash run. he was generally talking about the many dramas at the show of which missy was one.

henry: *to me* you remember “missy” when she had that affair with [house manager]

yours truly: *to henry* oh that BITCH….oh i’m sorry….i can’t, can’t stand that girl

henry: the thing is she really was a bitch because she ran to [house manager] for every little issue

yours truly: *to henry* it was going around at the time that she was trying to make manager

henry: yeah!

missy was pretty infamous in my mind and is the single most ugliest woman personality wise i have ever met. and with this in mind this was a slow burn. the best part of this story is that if she was seeking something in trying very hard at various points to make me look bad, she largely failed. she may have succeeded in making me look bad but she really got nothing out of it.

one time i pushed back after she tried to tell me that i need to reuse that bag because they count them. it’s her being take change and i didn’t like that. she didn’t like the fact that i got “smart” with her. and later she told a manager about my behavior. i responded to her take charge behavior, however, she wasn’t wrong i gave the customer a bag that wasn’t warm. my mistake.

another time i was returning from my 30 min break and missy standing outside of the box office area was keen on telling me that i needed to hurry up and clock back in. i was on my phone just as i was about to clock back in, besides there was a reason i surfaced to return to work so i simply brushed by her without a word. basically she placed her arm across the door letting me know “don’t ignore me”. i was like oh ok uninterested in a confrontation that she wanted to initiate. later i yelled at her for trying to tell me if i mark a bill i didn’t have to find a manager. even though which was my point that could be better stated that i still needed a manager to check large bills whether or not the bill was marked with a counterfeit marker.

the last and worst confrontation happened later that summer and it was based on an over-reaction. but i really wasn’t feeling her need to be take charge. i didn’t report her for the aggressive and obnoxious behavior she displayed when a movie let out. it all started when she tried to tell me to to collect 3D glasses – and only after everyone else assumed i was supposed to be doing it and the thing is while i did it for those movies i was cleaning no one told me to collect all 3D glasses. i just walked off on her and she immediately found the nearest manager.

she kept trying to confront me and i wouldn’t speak. one of the supervisors starting getting concerned because missy – told one of them about it. she even threatened me by stating “i better not see you on roosevelt road!” even after that and as i walked off on her and she was looking for things to criticize me on the next thing she did was find the nearest manager and say something else. she especially saw when they pulled me into the office.

i’m not sure i was in trouble when they did. h.m and another senior manager wanted to know if i was ok and what was going on. and established that i wasn’t really caring for one of the workers who decided to really target me because i wasn’t going to talk to her on that day. and they were following me around after that until i got off later. missy had left the building after i paid a visit to the office.

another time after that missy had came to the theater to watch a movie and upon seeing me walking back to box decided to speak.

missy: hey jack!

yours truly: *stops for a second and then keeps walking to register*

missy: so you’re not going to speak to me jack….ok it’s cool! *she then proceeds to talk about some earlier incident involving me at that moment to another coworker*

to which btw, there were nothing but serious tactical errors on my part with her. one major one she attempted to blow up at work that i poked her on fb and she friend requested me. man she kept talking about it at work and didn’t mind saying “don’t act like you don’t poke me on fb”. for the most part i never really went there with her although i have told some people i did this without really knowing who it was. this was just another dumb drama she wanted to start and i gave that one to her on a silver platter. although it more or less upset her when i really did nothing with this.

in fact there was one other incident where she got mad because she was talking to me and i kept walking. we both were doing our rounds one evening when she apparently heard from mischievous coworkers that i didn’t care for her. she tried to say i was funny and tried to engage me, i just went inside a theater to give it a quick check and she comes in after me to confront me. starting with “didn’t you hear me talking to you” before softening up and quietly leaving.

the less i interacted with her in spite of her taking shots at me – for example “this is jack, he won’t acknowledge me in anyway….see” as i walk away from her with no word while she speaks to a new employee. she often says something about my smart mouth although i stopped when she made her threats at that point i had nothing more i needed to say to her. eventually she just shut down on me, no words at all would cross paths between us. just as i stopped communicating with her she eventually stopped. nothing she was saying whether aggressively or softly i just refused to respond because i knew if i said the right thing she’d get triggered.

twice i was face to face with her at “the show” before i finally left. to start i took care of her as a customer and i didn’t really speak to her as i did to both her and her two friends. and she didn’t say much to me either almost as if i wasn’t there, but this was better than her being nasty towards me. the last time was shortly before i left in 2014, she was leaving her movie with a group around her she looked at me and then re-fixed her gaze passed me. i backed up not because of her but certainly because there was a crowd leaving the movie at that time.

remember i said she friended me right, eventually a few years i’d drop her from fb. she stopped talking about the poking at least where i could hear her. and she never got promoted and rumor had it that the rumors killed that possibility. also rumor had it she handed in her two weeks without actually landing a job although someone mentioned that she moved onto a bank.

btw, i have to mention this the one time i took care of her as a customer she made sure to talk to someone she did get along with. first thing she asked about, the house manager, almost as if she still had some business with him. i wonder if she was up there looking for him and he was ducking her. which is funny because someone like her who is angry and aggressive is what he chases, he has more patience with that apparently than i ever would.



i’m only sharing this article with this quote:

One of the biggest turn-offs for men is disrespect from their spouse and yelling is a form of disrespect when done inappropriately as this woman was doing. At least this women recognizes that she had a problem. There are many wives who do not and they yell and act disrespectful of men and then wonder why men avoid them. That doesn’t sound very empathetic to me.

a common these with young women at “the show” had been odd conflicts with young women i had great issues getting along with. many had wanted to find something to complain about displaying in some respects there need to be take charge or more accurately their need to distract. most of this may well be their inability to truly read me or perhaps a need to seek out male attention though utilizing mainly negative means.

let’s take me out of the equation, some guys know how to handle this and got the young women or girls interested in them. some were young a precious few were much older. it could indicate that some of these young people have a horrible time relating to men. same as who helen smith above is referring to.

a wife or girlfriend may yell at her husband or boyfriend because she knows no other way of relating to them other than as boys to be raised. perhaps some young women use that same approach with men whether in their lives, at school or at work. treating them like sh*t will get them to pay attention to me!

except it may cause the opposite. perhaps you get resentment and perhaps a man who’s attention you seek will only stay as far away from you as possible. though with immaturity it’s possible one can’t understand the problem is actually within not the other person.

at the same time, i recognize that my problem is just as easily i had a rough time relating to the young women. if i’m a thirty-something working with teenaged girls or early twenty-something women it could become a gap that is insurmountable. of course the reasons for this is actually varied though not something to get into right now.

the 6th grade

sixth grade chalkboard

the sixth grade was a weird time for me. actually weird doesn’t really describe this period. i felt as if my classmates hated me and my parents hated me although i realize they had a lot of issues of their own. they used the pretense of school to not be very happy with me.

what i realize today is that i wasn’t happy back then thanks to a variety of issues. i was never a good student back then but for that time it was still a convenient target for my parents. my teachers back then had a job to do and they chose to do it. needless to say things weren’t looking up for me back then.

about my classmates, i realize we were all kids back then with our various psychologies and knew nothing more. to illustrate this point i want to talk about a crush named regina. she was one of my more intense crushes back then.

regina was a pretty girl with a nice pair of calves i often noticed because she wore skirts with either regular socks that left her calves bare or a pair of stockings. if i knew nothing else about her i liked her legs.


unfortunately as time went on back then i realized she came off as if she didn’t like me. she made it clear what she thought of me and it was often unflattering. in fact she only communicated this the way a girl of about 11 or 12 would. girls of a certain age can be quite cruel and it’s mostly words that hurt more than any physical action. a lot of this i can attribute to immaturity more than anything.

one time she said something i didn’t like during recess and i went off on her. she didn’t miss a beat and my male classmates of the time were enjoying the show. what i can recognize now is that she either may not have been the one for me at the time. or i just plain had no idea how to turn this situation around.

indeed, perhaps it was meant to go down this way because both of our immaturity of the time didn’t allow either of us to see past the situation. was it possible she’s expressing herself that way because she really liked me. her words caused me to believe not only no but “HELL NO”.

even after that episode i still never forgot about her. even attempted to talk to her on MySpace and sent a mushy message even after she noted that she doesn’t remember me. i made sure to note that i really had a crush on her back in the day but to my disappointment – though not surprise – she never responded. she is on fb however and have debated whether or not i should contact her there.

i did say 6th grade was weird. that year the boys started to play with the girls. many of the girls got a quick slap on their backsides at random times by the boys especially when our teacher was outside of the classroom. if this activity happened now this wouldn’t be acceptable at all.

also this was the only time i saw a girl in her panties. right in our classroom two boys surrounded this girl and pulled up her skirt. if i recall her underwear seemed childish which makes sense because we were so young. consider this another thing that was unacceptable back then.


Girl TalkIt’s funny how women can just casually talk about people in generally, especially those they have some types of issue with. In the break room one of my supervisors and a woman from another department casually talk about a guy that comes in to help us out from time to time.

The woman from the other department talks about how she’s trying to stay cordial, but this guy keeps trying with her. She already knows they’re not compatible and noted that he’s used to getting his way. Still he’s not getting the hint that it’s not going to happen.

All this woman said was, he works in my department at a different location. The supervisor picks up on who it is and says his name. At this point – thankfully my back is turned – my jaw dropped to the floor hearing about him.

To be sure, he’s a nice guy who’s very good at his job. When I first started working with him, I can’t say I cared for him much. He’s very take charge, very hyper, and yes he knows what to do in a lot of situations. Since I don’t really have work with him often it’s really no big deal we can just work business as usual when he’s gone.

So then they really got to talking about him. Their convo indicates that they really don’t seem to like him that much. Or more accurately they don’t like how he is, for example he can be real touchy they say. The only thing I can say that means is he gets too close to them or he touches them and they don’t like it.

So now it brings to mind how some women have been towards me. Sometimes what they’re thinking comes to the forefront in the worst ways. Most of the time I’m not even thinking about them and yet wow I’m the worst thing ever. Perhaps it’s not exactly like that, but sometimes it’s difficult for me not to think in those terms.

So in other words, women talk to each other and share information about men. Unfortunately depending on the women, they may otherwise act on this information. It may have little to do with the man, but they will find a way to use it against a man fair or unfair. There isn’t much anyone can do about it other than let them talk.