As of the time this post is written the actual count of likes on this blog is 508. Thank you for following and thank you for liking my space on the world wide web. Hopefully you all will continue to like this blog. The last post about “changing styles” put me over the top!
The screencap below was from roughly the time I had posted the “changing styles” post!
I’ve never entirely gotten a handle on the whole liking thing. My experience with liking is that either a woman likes you or she doesn’t. While you may have decided that you do she may be talking to you on a friendly basis and already made her decision based on whatever she thinks she’s looking for.
Sadly it has happened to me more times than once and most of the time with disastrous consequences. This are things that I have mostly sought to learn from even though it is often very difficult. Perhaps in those cases the women weren’t for me.
As a man there are women I’ve already decided are attractive enough for me to like in some way especially romantically. I can also decide well I shouldn’t mess with her she has a boyfriend or she gives me the crazy vibe I shouldn’t. Bottom line is that believe me I have been caught looking.
Of course the issue is whether or not it’s worth going for it. Cold approaching women will always be difficult for me, I could be used to talking to women whom are coworkers or fellow students. And of course they’re looking for who they’re looking for, but the challenge is becoming or changing what they think they want in a man.
One night I saw a semi debate over dating websites. It was in the news recently that a site that allows singles or perhaps people in relationships to engage in affairs with other singes or others in relationships had been hacked. The thing about these sites is that well they definitely enable people who wish to be in a relationship to find someone so that they can.
I’ve found this more comfortable although granted you can be seeing a representation of what anyone views themselves. All the same, I found electronic means even if it’s just a social media website as more comfortable than cold approaching. In other words cold-approaching online instead of in person on the streets.
I suppose the question I need to consider is how do I take these various approaches to the next level. How can it ultimately become the one thing I have been looking for? Which is a relationship especially a romantic relationship that leads to sex?
To be sure I’m not considered a hugger by any means but the idea bells rang in my head upon seeing a coworker somewhat aggressively hug a young lady at work. He just went up behind her and wrapped his arms around her.
He didn’t speak to her apparently earlier that day so he more than made up for it to her delight. It gave me an idea because I would have never thought of it. I asked her if I could get away with what he just got away with.
She didn’t get it at first but she figured it out…”hug me?” she says with a smile and twinkle in her eye. Unfortunately another coworker saw that a customer was waiting and unfortunately my hugging attempt had to wait. I told her I’ll be back to get my hug.
To be sure this was only a hug, and she does have a boyfriend. I was very excited and nervous about this. And this was one of those things I started to overthink. My concern was would I find myself crossing the line with this young lady.
She giggled through the hug at least when I first asked her and she didn’t turn me down then at least. Besides if she wasn’t feeling it that would come out. I asked her if she wanted to know why I asked, then told her she was worth it. “Awww thanks”. she said.
I’ve worked with her for five months and unfortunately for me this cute petite girl who’s just so sweet in many ways is going away to school. Friendship is probably the way to go with her, but anything more serious well at least that’s something to consider only in my head for the moment. Her boyfriend I hope appreciates that she’s probably getting a lot of hugs from lots of people who like her!
I told her why I asked her and my answer was “because you’re worth it”. That was before I released my hug. She’s a sweet person and so darned cute hugging her was definitely worth it.