Ending January strong

As we close out this month which has been very cold in Chicago. Not that unsual, however it has me longing for more warmer locales during this winter. This blog has gotten over 1000 likes. Current tally is 1058 though not reflected in the screencap below.img_5948

I also wanted to note that I end this month continuing a consecutive posting streak on this blog. Though at this point with this post it’ll be extended to 13 14 days I screencapped this two days ago. 😛


Also I should add many of the top posts in the sidebar were published this month. Thank you for your likes and your comments. I don’t know if I want to keep this “furious” schedule during February though my plans now are expected to be as close to “Valentine’s Day” oriented as possible. Of course nestled with some other subjects too.

I want to observe some milestones from last year with regards to my former job at “The Hole”, however, let’s let the clock turn into February before executing those plans.


Streaks & likes – records

First I broke the previous streak at 9 though with this post the streak of consecutive posts will be extended to 10.


And the previous post about online dating breaks the record for all day likes on a post which is 13. Of course the post with the most likes of all time at 17 is also about Online Dating. The previous record was for likes to another records update.

That is all!

Thank You

As of the time this post is written the actual count of likes on this blog is 508. Thank you for following and thank you for liking my space on the world wide web. Hopefully you all will continue to like this blog. The last post about “changing styles” put me over the top!

The screencap below was from roughly the time I had posted the “changing styles” post!

To like or not

how-to-add-facebook-like-button-to-blogger-postsI’ve never entirely gotten a handle on the whole liking thing. My experience with liking is that either a woman likes you or she doesn’t. While you may have decided that you do she may be talking to you on a friendly basis and already made her decision based on whatever she thinks she’s looking for.

Sadly it has happened to me more times than once and most of the time with disastrous consequences. This are things that I have mostly sought to learn from even though it is often very difficult. Perhaps in those cases the women weren’t for me.

As a man there are women I’ve already decided are attractive enough for me to like in some way especially romantically. I can also decide well I shouldn’t mess with her she has a boyfriend or she gives me the crazy vibe I shouldn’t. Bottom line is that believe me I have been caught looking.

Of course the issue is whether or not it’s worth going for it. Cold approaching women will always be difficult for me, I could be used to talking to women whom are coworkers or fellow students. And of course they’re looking for who they’re looking for, but the challenge is becoming or changing what they think they want in a man.

One night I saw a semi debate over dating websites. It was in the news recently that a site that allows singles or perhaps people in relationships to engage in affairs with other singes or others in relationships had been hacked. The thing about these sites is that well they definitely enable people who wish to be in a relationship to find someone so that they can.

I’ve found this more comfortable although granted you can be seeing a representation of what anyone views themselves. All the same, I found electronic means even if it’s just a social media website as more comfortable than cold approaching. In other words cold-approaching online instead of in person on the streets.

I suppose the question I need to consider is how do I take these various approaches to the next level. How can it ultimately become the one thing I have been looking for? Which is a relationship especially a romantic relationship that leads to sex?


how-to-draw-people-hugging-from-behind-the-backTo be sure I’m not considered a hugger by any means but the idea bells rang in my head upon seeing a coworker somewhat aggressively hug a young lady at work. He just went up behind her and wrapped his arms around her.

He didn’t speak to her apparently earlier that day so he more than made up for it to her delight. It gave me an idea because I would have never thought of it. I asked her if I could get away with what he just got away with.

She didn’t get it at first but she figured it out…”hug me?” she says with a smile and twinkle in her eye. Unfortunately another coworker saw that a customer was waiting and unfortunately my hugging attempt had to wait. I told her I’ll be back to get my hug.

To be sure this was only a hug, and she does have a boyfriend. I was very excited and nervous about this. And this was one of those things I started to overthink. My concern was would I find myself crossing the line with this young lady.

She giggled through the hug at least when I first asked her  and she didn’t turn me down then at least. Besides if she wasn’t feeling it that would come out. I asked her if she wanted to know why I asked, then told her she was worth it. “Awww thanks”. she said.

I’ve worked with her for five months and unfortunately for me this cute petite girl who’s just so sweet in many ways is going away to school. Friendship is probably the way to go with her, but anything more serious well at least that’s something to consider only in my head for the moment. Her boyfriend I hope appreciates that she’s probably getting a lot of hugs from lots of people who like her!

I told her why I asked her and my answer was “because you’re worth it”. That was before I released my hug. She’s a sweet person and so darned cute hugging her was definitely worth it.