In continuing to wrap up the storyline about my time at “the show” I’m going to revisit that one-off foe – Missy. Then we may explore one more time what happened with her good buddy Candace who decided that “I need a friend” during her time trying to talk to
For a good number of years Missy had left me with some unease. Missy was a young woman of no more than 19-20 and was aggressive. It would be attributed to her age more than anything however it may just be her natural inclination.
Evidence of her aggression was that she was very take charge and didn’t like pushback. My gut tells me that she wanted to be a manager and someone on mgmt level put that idea in her head. With this in mind she got herself involved in situations that actually required the presence of a manager. Not only that there were situations where I pushed back and she didn’t handle this very well. She would get pissed though remember that she could also run to a manager expect them to handle me not that she was a problem herself. Only thing is the more she engaged in that behavior the more I’d just withdraw from her.
With this in mind one situation that I’ve only heard about from one of the supervisors at the theater involved a call from one of the auditoriums at work. An associate called for a manager to their auditorium and Missy was the one who responded to the call. T about being very take charge and certainly a case of well this is the position she wanted. She was very willing to act the part even if she never got promoted before she quit.
Now this leads me to one reason why I thought she started power tripping especially when I used my sarcasm to push back against her. Rumors had been going around not long before or after she had left that allegedly she was having an affair with the house manager. I suppose that when you’re in such a situation some things are said that may or may not happen in this case “I’m going to make you a supervisor”.
Anyway when Henry left the theater – close to three years after Missy left – he decided to repeat this rumor with me and a newer coworker on a trash run. He was generally talking about the many dramas at “the show” of which Missy was one.
Henry: *to me* you remember “Missy” when she had that affair with [house manager]
Yours truly: *to Henry* Oh that BITCH….oh I’m sorry….I can’t, can’t stand that girl
Henry: The thing is she really was a bitch because she ran to [house manager] for every little issue
Yours truly: *to Henry* It was going around at the time that she was trying to make manager
Missy was pretty infamous in my mind and is the single most ugliest woman personality wise I have ever met. And with this in mind this was a slow burn. the best part of this story is that if she was seeking something in trying very hard at various points to make me look bad, she largely failed. She may have succeeded in making me look bad but she really got nothing out of it.
One time I pushed back after she tried to tell me that I need to reuse a popcorn bag because they count them. It’s her being take change and I didn’t like that. She didn’t like the fact that I got “smart” with her. And later she told a manager about my behavior. I responded to her take charge behavior, however, she wasn’t wrong that I gave the customer a bag that wasn’t warm. My mistake.
Another time I was returning from a 30 min break and Missy standing outside of the box office area was keen on telling me that I needed to hurry up and clock back in. I was on my phone just as i was about to clock back in, besides there was a reason I surfaced to return to work so I simply brushed by her without a word. Basically she placed her arm across the door letting me know “don’t ignore me”. I was like oh OK uninterested in a confrontation that she wanted to initiate. Later I yelled at her for trying to tell me if I mark a bill I didn’t have to find a manager. Even though my point that could be better stated was that I still needed a manager to check large bills whether or not the bill was marked by me with a marker.
The last and worst confrontation happened later that summer and it was based on an over-reaction. But I really wasn’t feeling her need to be take charge on that given day. I didn’t report her for the aggressive and obnoxious behavior she displayed towards me when a movie let out. It all started when she tried to tell me to collect 3D glasses – and only after everyone else assumed I was supposed to be doing it and the thing is while I did it for those movies I was cleaning no manager told me to collect all 3D glasses. I just walked off on her and she immediately found the nearest manager.
She kept trying to confront me and I wouldn’t speak to her. One of the supervisors starting getting concerned because Missy – told one of them. She even threatened me by stating “I better not see you on roosevelt road!” while outside of an auditorium letting out with customers. Even after that and as I walked off on her and she was looking for things to criticize me – plus she was HOT The next thing she did was find the nearest manager and say something else and she made sure to watch mgmt pull me into the office.
I wasn’t sure I was in trouble when they did. H.M. and another senior manager wanted to know if I was OK and what was going on. We established that I wasn’t really caring for one of the workers who decided to really target me because I wasn’t going to talk to her on that day. And they were following me around after that until I got off later. Missy had left the building after I paid a visit to the office.
Another time after that Missy had came to the theater to watch a movie and upon seeing me walking back to box decided to speak.
Missy: Hey Jack!
Yours truly: *stops for a second and then keeps walking to register*
Missy: So you’re not going to speak to me Jack….OK it’s cool! *she then proceeds to talk about some earlier incident involving me at that moment to another coworker*
To which, there were nothing but serious tactical errors on my part with her. One major error she attempted to blow up at work was that I poked her on FB and she friend requested me. Man she kept talking about it at work and didn’t mind saying “don’t act like you don’t poke me on fb”. For the most part I never really went there with her although I have told some people I did this without really knowing who it was. This was just another dumb drama she wanted to start and I gave that one to her on a silver platter. Although it more or less upset her when I really did nothing with this.
In fact there was one other incident where she got mad because she was talking to me and I kept walking. We both were doing our rounds one evening when she apparently heard from mischievous coworkers that I didn’t care for her. She tried to say I was funny and tried to engage me, I just went inside a theater to give it a quick check and she comes in after me to confront me. Starting with “didn’t you hear me talking to you” before softening up and quietly leaving.
I interacted with her less in spite of her taking shots at me – for example “This is Jack, he won’t acknowledge me in anyway….see” as I walk away from her with no word as she speaks to a new employee. She often says something about my smart mouth although it stopped after her threats and expression of anger that at this point I had nothing more that needed to be said to her. Eventually she just shut down, no words at all would cross paths between us again. Just as I stopped communicating with her she eventually stopped trying to communicated with me. Nothing she was saying whether aggressively or softly caused me to respond because I knew if I said or did the right thing she’d get triggered.
Twice I was face-to-face with her at “the show” before Ifinally left. Once I took care of her as a customer in box I didn’t really speak to her though I more addressed the two friends she had with her. And she didn’t say much to me either almost as if i wasn’t there, but this was better than her being nasty & angry towards me. The last time was shortly before I left in 2014, she was leaving her movie with a group around her she looked at me and then re-fixed her gaze passed me. I backed up not because of her but certainly because there was a crowd leaving the movie at that time.
Remember I said she friended me right, eventually a few years later I’d drop her from fb. She stopped talking about the poking at least where I could hear her. And she never got promoted and the rumors about her alleged affair killed that possibility. Also rumor had it she handed in her two weeks without actually landing a job although someone mentioned that she moved onto a bank.
I have to mention this the one time I took care of her as a customer she made sure to talk to someone she did get along with. First person she asked about, the house manager, almost as if she still had some business with him. I wonder if she was up there looking for him and he was ducking her. Which is funny because someone like her who is angry and aggressive is what he chases, he has more patience with that apparently than I ever would.