more positivity at “the show”

i want to promise you all that october is almost here and next month we will be getting back to the present day. i also promised to discuss my senior year of high school and what i failed to do back then. meanwhile i still continue to talk about “the show” and winding down this storyline.

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in writing this post, a friend challenged me to write a “gush piece” about the theater with whom i formerly worked for almost five years. the last positive post i tried to do never lived up to that. it was as positive as i could get – well i believe. there are more positives to discuss. not entirely certain that yours truly could write a true “gush” regard the place i once called “sh*tplace”.

to this day i have a number of “promotional materials” including two oversized movie posters that for the time being remain in my closet. i would like to one day frame them and display or it’s possible someone would buy them. there are other much smaller posters that have yet to be displayed. unfortunately many of these posters are for movies that weren’t that popular with few exceptions although the two oversized posters are for major film franchises.

one of the senior managers – on the advice of anthony – hooked me up with them. cool gesture and at least he didn’t d*ck with me on them – he remembered and delivered. incidentally this senior manager who was a point as far as the facility, later moved on to a similar role at a national theater chain and especially with the dine-in show that i worked at for 8 mos. he’s one of those who could’ve treated me like a pariah – not just disdain but also indifference – and could pick up with “where are you now”. btw, two senior managers got thank you notes before i finally worked my last day at “the show” unfortunately this senior manager never got one.

anyway, i have plenty of t-shirts some of which i wore heavily. only one was for a major film franchise – well taken in fact – and how that became a franchise is one hell of a question. i have coasters for a new dolby system set up at that theater. i have some hats for two major film franchises and even a lang w/ card for yet another film franchise. for the most part however most of these trinkets, weren’t for movies that were particularly popular.

it’s possible that there could’ve been more except most of the managers who thought little of the employees would typically hog these items. they’d lock em up in a closet where we would find them later anyway. in some cases we’d slyly take them home with us although some were bold about it. it could’ve been one way to say thank you, but as i said most of us were an afterthought.

regardless one of the more prized treasures i got from the theater were two oversized movie posters from a major film franchise thanks to someone who didn’t treat me as an afterthought. i was also so lucky because this particular film – even though it was updated for the new century – had little interest to the teeny boppers. they didn’t think much of it and thought it was for the lames. their loss! šŸ˜›

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positive tales of working at “the show”

it seems most of my posts about the show with few exceptions have been negative. i noted on occasion that many of the people i met were quite cool and they were a joy to work with. not only that many of us will speak say hello and many even ask what are you up to today. generally cordial, the trouble makers will often avoid saying much to me they either know they will get a chilly reception or they may just have their own odd issues still – whatever those are.

sometimes though a busy cinema is exciting, the activity is important to a business any business. although this activity can on occasion bring out the crazy in some people. there are high maintenance people out there who are already on edge about something and they need to bring out out on someone. sadly i have been on the receiving end of this. sometimes the wrong managers take advantage and decide it’s ok to talk sh*t.

even though i returned to the business briefly with another company at the dine-in show i still miss the screenings. when some promotion company organize a free advance screening for a coming attraction. those are cool the worse parts are insuring customers choose their seats and getting everyone lined up. like i said the crazies come out not just on the weekends for new movies, also for these screenings.

there was once an elderly woman who waited long for a screening. she complained to us though there was little we could do other than tell her someone else makes the call to let customers in. she was so upset she announced she’d never come back to our facility again. to be fair to “sh*tplace” it was not necessarily our fault that she had to wait until the promo reps allowed us to move the line forward.

i never understood finicky people over their food. people wanted a “fresh” frozen pizza or a pizza that was less burned. funniest story about that i had a customer who looked at their pizza gave it back to me later claimed it was burned. one minor problem though i never challenged them on it, the pizza wasn’t burned at all. it was all just an excuse! in this case i put it back in the warmer and it was quickly sold – so no small fortune was lost in this process. šŸ˜›

want to hear an odd story about a “secret shopper”. one weekday after school was out for the year we were swamped with families and their children. a temperamental woman was virtually hissing at another lady claiming “i’m next! I’M NEXT!” it didn’t matter though all registers had no line.

this same hissing made some noise getting our attention “HEY HEY HEY HEY HO HO HO HO”. she only wanted to tell us that our containers for salt were empty and that she’s a secret shopper and they pay attention to that. this woman merely wanted attention! >-(

our theater was a zoo with all types of people. women wanted to see the movies they wanted to see and often gravitated towards feminist or romance cinema. we got young people or young people from the “hood” who often gravitated towards horror, action or comedy.

we also had the people who were just out and decided to drop by the theater and had little idea what to see so often we had to answer questions about what the movies were about. one infamous question with regards to this is a vague “what’s good?” or another infamous question “what’s scary?” oh and i forget sometimes we get hit with a scent of marijuana because some people come in after getting a hit. and of course that’s not to say people whom i worked with didn’t smoke that stuff, and for the record i’ll only smoke that if i’m terminally ill. sorry tmi and hopefully that never happens.

finally i just want to say it never occurred to me how they show the pictures. most movies before the 21st century used film reels provided by the distributors. “the show” used hard drives that were delivered to them often via a courier. so if there were any issues, a computer could be used to fix them. sometimes a lens had to be changed especially for a 3D movie. since my role at “the show” never could include projection this was not something i concerned myself with much unless a customer’s experience was somehow impacted which either meant a customer complained or i knew there was a problem already and was proactive about getting it fixed.

one thing i will say about my time at the theater, it gave me an invaluable experience especially when it comes to dealing with people. and with this in mind it includes both coworkers, managers, supervisors, and customers. as much as i may say i had a not very good experience, perhaps i’m a long way from saying that i’d have done something different other than how i’d approach the situations i found myself in there.

positivity

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on this blog i sometimes talk about positivity though it seems as if i never practiced enough of it. i’ll admit that it’s my tendency to dwell on some of the negative incidents that have happened in my life. unfortunately “the show” is no different as it took up a significant amount of my time.

so allow me to be somewhat positive about my time at “the show”. as much as i dwell on those incidents with rambunctious and very take charge young people who were very willing to let you know to your face that they don’t value you as a coworker. there are some positives and as often stated i’m often in touch with many of these individuals from “the show”.

some were cool and good to talk with even if on occasion what i may be saying isn’t what they want to hear. and yes some of them – like anthony – has the tendency to want to take advantage of the situation. i’ll still say that it was worthwhile knowing them and even then if it wasn’t for anthony i may never have started looking for another job even if it took over two years to finally leave the theater.

there were many good times there and often with the right people. i also miss the occasions where i drove to work with me sometimes taking alternate route too and from work. also i’m lucky that no one knew to do something to my mother’s vehicle especially if i raised the ire of some many at the job. on top of that many of them decided i wasn’t going to do much about it.

the ones i did well with i try to bring them with me although many have so far not took the plunge. some have found better positions and that’s definitely a good thing. many of them it would be cool to bring them with me to my current job and beyond.

if you’ve read this blog you got to know anthony a little bit. an outspoken older gentlemen who means well but seems to have the ability to talk down to people. on the other hand he’s a bit of a fighter who looks at the big picture. through him i knew about the ways “the show” used obamacare to cut hours. he was good at learning the lay of the land there in ways i never considered. when we first met he came on strong and caused some distance and still can come on strong.

there’s a man named henry who we’ll meet again in another post. he was very good at his job to the point where he often was an usher on weekends and was an unofficial trainer. good to talk about and also knew the lay of the land. on the flip side, he sure had some drama in his life if you judged my his fb page years ago. he left and found another job months before i had.

also there a man name keith who became a manager within months after i left. he gave me the definitiveĀ  low-down on what it’s like to move up to the supervisory level not long after he got fired. the worse thing about his termination was that the people he thought were friends were the ones who turned on him and helped get him out. he probably still hasn’t figured out why they did what they did. as happens with young coworkers in a place with no structure at all!

there’s an older lady name kristi whom i worked with the first two years. i haven’t stayed in touch with her much over the years although i gave her a quick update on what happened at the show since she left. which managers got fired and moved on. she was a cool ally to have and it’s too bad that she left the job due to illness.

those are just some examples. i texted keith once not long after he left “the show” that i’m very glad i never burned bridged with everyone. i began to believe i was that bad, then he concurred with my next statement “the people who worked with whom bridges were burned were just looking for excuses.” so i could dwell on the negative aspects, but what i will choose to do from this point forward is to remember those i worked well with!

also i forgot to add with the many managers and supervisors i interacted with – which does include someone like harve – i’ve offered thank you cards to two senior managers who were helpful during the “streak era”. unfortunately neither are no longer at the show, although with one i have his phone number and perhaps i should just dial him up in the near future.

future tense

for the moment i’m taking a brief two post break from my current stream of thoughts. mainly to announce that it’s about time to start retiring as a storyline for this blog anything involving “the show”.img_4541

it’s past time to let that portion of my work life go. sometimes when i do talk about that experience my attitude which i hope to go towards the positive begins to take a backslide to the negative. for a while it took me some time to just finally get some of that out of my system. not that it will ever entirely be out of mind, i just know that some other more pressing issues will take precedence in the future.

ifĀ  i ever bring that place up again beyond this month and the next it will only be in reference not to some past incidents but only for something that has happened recently. for example i saw one of the new senior managers open the doors to “the show” fairly recently. he had recently been promoted and i was already in the area as i was shopping in the complex where the theater was located. you will see that in a future post.

perhaps some incidents that i have intentionally left vague will be hashed out a bit more and hopefully not to the point where i will only rile myself up all over again. otherwise no sense in rehashing something that has already happened with no way of changing it. it happened and at this point i should know what needs to be done differently.

someone had to tell me that in some of my behaviors back then i often seek to avoid interacting with the more temperamental and immature of the coworkers i worked with back then. of course with varying degrees of success there were also some failures that resulted in more drama. in other situations where i didn’t avoid those types it just backfired on me regardless and i couldn’t help but feed into whatever preconceived notions they already had.

also as i could state many of these individuals with very few exceptions only merge together with nothing that truly distinguishes them. in many cases the drama they created are really just silly immature drama and the things they want to complain about aren’t much different from all the individuals involved. meaning many of the dramas and the individuals involved aren’t really worth writing about!

as of now the blog needs to go back to some form of positivity. if i stay mired in any negativity from the past, then i’ll be right back to where i was by the time i left “the show”…stagnant and miserable.

it was something of a small victory for me back in 2014 when i finally handed in my two weeks and had a victory lap where it didn’t entirely matter to me who did what. after so many interviews and no job offer it felt great to know that someone was willing to take a chance on me. “the show” kept me in place, but leaving finally assured my future and growth.

this blog will continue to be about my future!

positivity

movie-theateri talk so much negativity about “the show” consider the fact that i used to refer to it as “shitplace”. my decision long ago was only to just not be so vulgar and then enable me to say some positive things.

so let me tell you at times i dread a busy night, but it was cool to see people come to the show. sometimes it was a drag because not only you got the nice people you also got people who brought their attitudes to the movies with them. i could say the same for many of the employees but this post isn’t necessarily about them and i’ve said what i needed to say about them.

one cool thing about that job was the convenience, it was relatively close to downtown chicago. for a number of years there was little action there as it was located in a shopping center that was all vacant until my eventual departure. it was also the one job i was able to drive to and often park for free in the parking garage.

i was able to watch so many movies during downtime whether or not on an unpaid break. some of the people i met there – especially anthony – i’m still in touch with to this day. can’t say for some of the eligible and attractive young women i met. there has to be some form of effort with that on my part. of course there are many who won’t be worth the time of day.

also in part due to my work history – where i had little to no employment in my 20s – this was the longest tenured job i’ve ever held. a record hopefully to be surpassed by my current employers at a grocery store. even if i spent most of my time at “the show” frustrated it was something of a success and i learned some skill even if the young people around me never took advantage of some of the simple aspects of making sales.

another thing i should learn from this experience is that no one has any right to treat me with no respect and to find ways to quell any disrespect. and sometimes it matters not if they continue to persist which they will. the main thing is to not lose my head in the commotion keep cool and just remove myself from the situation.

another thing to consider is that talking one day with anthony he considered this gig a cakewalk. people liked to complain but it really was a simple job. my thoughts are that there are those who were just there to complain about the smallest issues while not doing a whole lot of work themselves.

of course one of my disappointments about this place was that i was never promoted. one way to fix that is to talk to the leadership. or at the very least find someone you can talk to about it and hope they will put your name forward. another thing to be mindful of is who you work with, you never know what’s going on in their minds and it may blindside you.

another friend of mine learned that with other coworkers but only after i had left and he got promoted to supervisor. he got let go because some of the workers with whom he worked before promotion decided to make him a target. either way another lesson learned.

bottom line i miss some of the excitement of the movie especially being on the inside. although i work at a grocery store now and get paid much better than at “the show” the excitement is of a different type and can’t compare to the theater. in fact it’s one reason i returned to the business briefly almost a year after leaving.

even though i don’t consider “the show” my scene anymore sometimes i return to it just to reminisce. i have yet to go to a movie there since i left, but it would be worth it at some point in the future. another thing anthony liked to say is that it’s not the place but it’s people and i’ve accepted that he’s right. just one thing it can be hard to separate the people from the place.

now i can finally consider from where i come from to where i am today. life is always about growth and there’s still more to do. maybe i’ll cross paths with the theater business again and maybe i’ll move up in that world the day i do. in the meanwhile what am i going to do where i am now?

the prolonged job hunt

i wrote about the first interview i had to kick off the two year long job hunt. often i make it seem like there were a lot of interviews and there weren’t. the reality is that there were a few more no’s than i had expected.

it all started with the small chain movie theater that i wrote about over the summer where i interviewed to be a manager. my disappointment and dwelling on that situation. the dwelling made easier because after an interview i kept getting NO job offers…

after the theater manager position fell through the next interview was for a bank teller at a major bank. really it was a phone interview and i felt as if this was an OK interview this was a no.

the next interview was for a major movie theater chain. another OK interview even though in 20/20 hindsight perhaps i turned my interviewers off. as much as i hoped this would end an emerging drought and after an attempt to follow up this was a no!

that would be my last interview until the end of the summer. there were other phone calls from employers and i sent applications. even took a test for the local transit authority but i never connected with them ultimately. as i continued working at “the show” i was getting nothing for my troubles.

there were some people i worked with who stupidly speculated that i wasn’t leaving. my friend anthony was even getting worried that i wasn’t getting any interviews and others had been. he was measuring my lack of success to others who were getting some success. and he attempted to give me some leads that i never pursued because i hadn’t been that interested to be honest.

then by that fall i got two interviews quick. another phone interview for an electronics store and that was a no. i was contradictory in that i apparently applied for an overnight stock position. wasn’t keen on that so it didn’t happen.

the next interview was for another retail store in downtown chicago. i had to go through a phone screen, a phone interview, and finally an interview at the store. all that and by the time of the in-store interview i was speaking with two young women who seemed neutral. hoping for the best this added to the no’s that was beginning to rack up!

my last interview that year was for a major movie theater chain. unfortunately while hoping for the best the interviewers were again neutral and i never heard from them again. i was at the point where i needed a way out from “the show” and the search got prolonged.

so how many was that. management, bank, theater, electronics, retail, theater so six total in the years 2012 and 2013. things would heat up in 2014 and by that fall i got a job offer!

i had one interview with a grocery chain that was expanding and opening new stores in the chicago area. the person who interviewed me again had been neutral and probably didn’t understand what i had applied for. this was where i went through some steps to score an in person interview. unfortunately never heard from them again.

then my friend anthony arranged for me to speak to a manager at another one of his jobs at a retail store which i quickly took advantage of. got screened and even though anthony said i will definitely hear from them i never got a phone call from them and the screen honesty ended suddenly as if that manager realized he wasn’t interested.

then suddenly i started getting interest from banks. the worst interview was with a local bank that where i had a family connection as a close relative had a management position at the bank. they sent me to a bank across the city to interview unfortunately an early morning and it took some time to get there. enough time where i made sure to call to not make my relative look bad. the interviewer still found a way to give me shit for it indicating that they weren’t impressed because i came late for interview. i never heard from that person again.

btw, not very important but i learned the interviewer had been let go….wtf???

anyway the other interviews were for national bank companies. as far as those go i went 1 for 5 at this point. i did get a job at a bank although not anywhere near downtown as i hoped i would. i would be in the neighborhood not too far from home.

the last interview was for a management position at a major theater chain. a huge surprise and gave me some confidence although i didn’t get it. perhaps i didn’t speak the language of the two general managers i interviewed with. so while i struggled at the bank i still fantasized about getting that position even though it wasn’t going to happen.

so in 2014 how many interviews six banks, one each for grocery, retail, and theater. So nine more interviews for a grand total of 15 actual interviews or screens. I did get other phone calls but they don’t count because they didn’t result in interviews. although there were some interesting stories with some of them.

either way even if it took me a few months after leaving “the show” to find my groove i finally did and happily.

 

speak it into existence

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an odd concept and good fodder for a blog post. this was something spoken by one of the supervisors at work. spoken to a coworker though it’s often stated in the world not just at my job.

sometimes one’s own negativity gets into the way of positivity. sometimes i have wallowed in being a virgin. i have no one romantically, i do have friends but not many whom i seem to frequently keep in contact with even from childhood. i do desire a intimate connection with a woman that i value and trust.

with this said, it won’t be long before i’m a late 30s virgin and perhaps it’s time to believe that something will change in that department. unfortunately i have no concept of how to be successful in the dating realm. i really missed that boat when i was younger. even with online dating.

regardless sooner or later something has to change and i’m still unsure how but i want to make the next year as pivotal as two years ago had been job-wise. times have to change and as much as i value my current job with all i have accomplished the past year perhaps the nature of my personal life must change also.

i will speak into existence that i will have a relationship with a woman i value and trust. short of that relationship i hope that the woman i value and trust will be the one that i could lose my virginity to. perhaps in the new year i will know the intimacy that has been missing for most of my life.