Just visiting

img_3872Last month, I paid a visit to “The Hole”. I just slid right in after watching a movie nearby and hoping to see some of my former colleagues. To be honest I just avoided that store roughly until Rog was no longer there.

Most of what I wrote about “Ruthless” was based upon conjecture and some other facts noted by colleagues. This is stuff that I have gone over in other posts that it’s just not very important to rehash here. However last month when I ran into some of my colleagues we did go over it again and noted how my former boss just ruined it for everyone in my former dept at “The Hole”.

I spent a lot of time in the neighboring dept where a coworker Chuck was holding court. I think he saw me before I saw him although I told him that I now work at another “Fresh Foods” store. We did talk a lot about Rog and we were talking s**t about him. He saw some things first hand from him that proved questionable. Problem is well no one knows that he’s made some questionable decisions. Regardless he was the first one to recognize that Rog’s ego was a bit oversized and he’s going to find himself in over his head. That is exactly what happened.

All the same it was cool to see him again and talk to him again. We talked about the assistant store mgr I had to interview with to return there. Thanks to him I didn’t get it, he was hard to get through to. Chuck just said he might have been a bit racist – who knows. All the same I don’t look at it as a bad thing now because I’ve returned to the company anyway. An opportunity will be there for me to return to “The Hole” in the future, perhaps in a better position. When I originally interviewed to return in March, perhaps I didn’t show this store mgr much of anything to work with.  This paved the way for me to be picked up elsewhere.

So anyway I part with Chuck and head to my former dept where some of the people who were there from last year sighted me first before requesting one of them get the supervisor who I had been in touch with since Rog departed the scene. I expressed interest in returning to help them out and of course this was before I made full-time again. It is still something I’m keenly very interested in at some point this summer.

The folks of my former dept never mentioned Rog. My own shot to my former supervisor was “I don’t expect you to say too much, but I’m glad I missed the drama”. He told me some people are out of action joking that some associates kept getting hit by cars. On the other hand he mentioned the dept is coming back as far as sales. Besides they should be gearing up for the summer where the sales will be very strong. Who knows if that’s a parting shot to the now departed “Ruthless” and with Larry in charge.

Before making my way to “The Hole” I ran into yet another colleague – Bill (who I ran into on the train last year) – who was on his way home for the day. So I changed course and walked him to the train – this was before watching a movie that afternoon. And again we talked s**t about Rog we both agreed that man had no idea what he was doing and also confirmed that with Larry in charge the dept has operated far more smoothly. In his words no more bulls**t.

Though this incident happened after Rog departed we talked about what happened with another colleague who got let go. There was about to be a catfight in the dept and that took care of both participants’ jobs. At first it became a serious verbal confrontation and one of the ladies decided to charge at the other. What I observed based upon the story that was relayed to me was one of those ladies seemed to have an attitude that morning. In other words she was a “mean girl” who just so happen to run into the “Mean girl of ‘The Hole'”. And at least the “Mean girl of ‘The Hole'” was my mean girl as we had worked well together. The “mean girl” was basically a new hire who may have arrived after I left and could be a Rog hire which says it all.

With this said I told Bill when he told me his version of what happened “That is some ‘S**tplace’ type stuff“. What I just heard could’ve happened at the theater and depending upon the mood of mgmt we wouldn’t be certain if anyone would’ve gotten fired. At “The Hole” and before Larry returned there was some disarray thankfully store mgmt wasted little time in getting rid of both of them. Especially the one who seemed intent on committing assault by charging at the other colleague.

We talked about Rog’s supervisor hires both of who are no longer there. One of them who I had met listening to Bill proved to be a bad fit and it’s no wonder that after almost six months she got shipped to another store demoted to associate. If there was a tense situation she’d add to it and in Bill’s words not handle the situation like a supervisor. Considering her boss, I think I could see that if he proved to be useless as a mentor.

The other supervisor that I hadn’t worked with he said came for a store meeting and was never seen or heard from again. I laughed hard at that, but then later I realized she might have been the smartest one in that situation. Who knows if that happened before or after Rog departed, but I just wonder if she realized this just wasn’t going to work. Also bear in mind she was an external hire who knows if Rog had a hand in bringing her in or the panel who should’ve interviewed her just over-ruled him.

All the same an interesting afternoon I had back in May before Memorial Day. This all happened because I didn’t exactly desire to go home just yet. Just wanted to hang around in downtown Chicago and made an impromptu visit to my old store. It should be noted while it somewhat satisfied me that Rog didn’t last in that position as I had began to expect, it’s never pleasing when someone suffers such a decline professionally as he may have. While he may have earned it, I do want to believe that anyone can successfully recover if they learn from what happened

Regardless I remember my first major return to “The Hole” and my old dept! And believe it or not, felt the love! So to speak of course!

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Potential TV series idea

I’m writing this post to have a little fun. This blog hasn’t been known for much fun as of late and I hadn’t thought much about potential entertainment projects as of late. Especially as I did months ago on this blog, depict yours truly getting fired from “Gotham Bank” and moving on to “Fresh Foods”. Not the most interesting idea, however, there is some artistry I’d like to use to make it more interesting.

So what if I depicted “Fresh” as not much different than the old British TV series Are You Being Served. The show is set in the clothing department of a British department store ran by two elderly brothers. We also see interactions between the dept and other personnel in the store especially with ownership & mgmt. Of course if I am to depict a grocery store it has to be somewhat different than a clothing dept.

So let’s say in my own Americanized version this takes place in say the deli/hot foods dept of a grocery store. Let’s say the elderly bros who own the store on the series would be represented by store mgmt as “Fresh” is essentially a publicly traded fortune 500 company. It is not a family owned business although I could always turn around and do a version that’s set at “The Show” which is family owned.

Since the characters work in a specific dept at a grocery store then the main characters work in this dept. Perhaps we can start with the assistant mgrs and supervisors and then to the rest of the team. Perhaps the main supporting character who we’ll see the most of is the dept mgr and I can envision creating a version of “Ruthless Roger” as a Mr. Rumbold. In real life I worked under several dept mgr but I could come up with an interesting storyline where Rumbold comes in “rises to his level of incompetence” and then he’s gone!

The easiest one to characterize in Mr. Humphries. On my former team there literally was an effeminate man who worked with us. His voice was a manufactured high pitch voice and I could never imagine with a deep voice and would be taken aback if he used it. Although for this individual in real life unlike the character his sexuality is not ambiguous.

Captain Peacock could be an assistant mgr in real life it’s possible you’ll see a assistant mgr on the floor. They may have to run to the back to handle dept business, however, they’ll be seen on the floor instead of the dept mgr. A dept mgr or a Mr. Rumbold will less frequently come to the floor. So it’s not like they’ll always remain in the back and do dept mgr things. They may help out in the dept on occasion when it’s necessary.

Supervisors well we have Mr. Slocombe, Mr. Grainger, and others who we’ll also see more frequently in the dept in addition to the Capt. Peacock character. It’ll be interesting to see how they’d interact with characters like Mr. Humphries and others who are just regular employees. Both of these characters will have distinct personalities one is flirtatious the other just cranky. Though both very good at their jobs so you can respect them.

Of course you have a Ms. Brahms or Mr. Lucas and others who round out the characters. Brahms is a young woman whom all the men have a crush on. Lucas could be a charming young man who tries his luck with all the women he works with. Let’s say to turn this into a sitcom there has to be a degree of sexual tension or unusual situations that prove to be very hilarious. Some of those situations can include customers.

Think about situations involving incompetent bosses or rude and stupid customers. Imagine the storyline where one of the main characters gets unexpectedly fired by “Ruthless Roger” Rumbold. Or better yet Rumbold basically loses his job and one of the main characters returns to his old job. And just think I got one more for you.

The Grace Bros store of the series has been depicted as a struggling store. The owners have little clue that it’s actually beginning to decline. We could depict this “Fresh” store the same way. Or more accurately this dept might have been undergoing a decline which accelerated under the naive and incompetent regime of Rumbold. Perhaps when Rumbold gets demoted Peacock becomes dept mgr finally as it was what he was angling for.

As for a TV theme, why not an updated and adapted version of the Are You Being Served? theme. It depicted a bustling dept store and now the theme should depict a bustling grocery store. Yes the percussion of cash registers with perhaps announcements heard over a PA system. And I can only imagine the set design…

I feel like this program could be a winner! Alas my comedy chops isn’t that good, however, I’m sure I can develop this series with the right comedy writers. Perhaps make almost the same types of jokes known from the British series. Perhaps it’s time to take a class on comedy writing.

Virgins

The Formerly Unfortunate Virgin Male recently had an interview with Eve from her blog Unleashing the Cougar. A comment she made on this blog made an appearance as one of the questions for Tommy (the former unfortunate virgin male) to address to which he gives a pithy answer.

I recommend you read this month’s entry to his blog. It’s spring well he might have more of a spring than I am in Chicago, however, he’s still doing things for his enjoyment. That’s what life is about you have work and then you have play. And as happened with Tommy, things happened for him as he explored on his blog. If you haven’t checked him out lately plz do.

On the virgin front, I haven’t really found many blogs on virgin women. And while it seems far more acceptable for a woman to remain “untouched” if you will some may view it as a little strange especially if you go beyond a certain age. Just take this segment from Steve Harvey.

With this said, even though she hadn’t posted in a while Krysta is a virgin who has a blog. She admits somewhat to why this has happened in this post – I’m an adult virgin. She does in other posts talk about her relationship history and if she’s face with situations such as this, I understand why she remains if you will “untouched”. Perhaps Eve should find a way to be in touch with her.

Odds & Ends

I have been sitting on this post for quite a while the events that happened in this post occurred during the month of February. So we’re just about in mid-March as I decide to edit this post some more. Unfortunately more to discuss as far as my former boss “Ruthless Roger” though we’ll start off with talking to someone I formerly worked with at “The Show”. Yeah something new came up and not much opportunity to complain about the past.

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* I ran into another coworker at “The Show” he was a cool outspoken guy who on occasion turned that mouth onto me. I could say he was a bit more reasonable than Anthony to be fair. We’ll call him Cliff and I was at the shopping center where the theater is located. Cliff just so happened to have been at a nearby coffee-shop having himself some donuts.

We got into some old drama, most of which didn’t involve yours truly, but one part of it helped get a friend of mine – Keith out of his job as a supervisor. Remember back in January I ran into another former colleague from “The Show” who used the word snake. Cliff noted something about another supervisor who helped get Keith fired. Irony is that Keith was dating an associate there while a supervisor, and this other supervisor allegedly was dating an associate although they were in two different parts of the theater. Remember there was a theater component and then a restaurant, during my time there they had been considered somewhat separate even though under the same company.

He let me know who does what at “The Show” these days. Harve became a senior mgr, however, he basically is over promotions and screenings – great pick up for him. Another supervisor we know became a booth mgr, the other booth mgr we knew who was a bit snakey has responsibility over other theaters in the region now. Though most of the people I had worked with are gone now. Especially those so-called “mean girls of s**tplace“. If many of them found better jobs then I will definitely say good for them.

* Oh another senior mgr who had gotten quickly promoted from associate to supervisor then senior mgr I learned had been sent to corporate. I feel as if I know why that happened, Anthony got involved in a drama involving his daughter whom he helped orchestrate getting a job at the theater we both complained about.

Allegedly this senior mgr was trying to get Anthony’s daughter away from the customer service desk – people did tend to huddle in that area and depending upon the mgr on duty there was some success in getting people to scatter. Since Anthony could be pretty stubborn as he can be with me, his daughter wouldn’t scatter so allegedly this senior mgr put her hands on his daughter causing a scuffle. Bear in mind Anthony knows martial arts and passed this on to his daughter.

Since Anthony has an idea about the internal process of most companies he found out who the HR rep was. Sent letters to the general manager, the HR rep, and whoever else he felt he needed to. He was still mad because this senior mgr still had a job with them as she does now. She is no longer a theater mgr anymore so perhaps this was an excuse, but I never asked Cliff nor told him about Anthony’s daughter.

* Frankly I liked working with Cliff, he was good to talk to. He was on this day, he suggested that I go into “The Show” and speak to another supervisor that I know who was on duty on this day. Though I never really expressed interest when I left him behind at his table and and went to the front door I saw the house manager open the doors to customers. Upon seeing him I went the opposite direction so I texted this supervisor later letting her know what’s up. There will be another time to pick my spot for a physical visit to the theater itself, probably still won’t catch a flick there. Though if I did, it would be to see how much things cost up there today.

If you want to know since I’ve been out of work, I do go up there just to look around. In that complex there are stores where I browse around, but mainly to reminisce. As of late it has been more frequent than I had been while working. For a while it was a matter of this where I’ve been and now I’m in a better place though for the moment my place isn’t very good in light of my current circumstances. To which in answering Cliff as far as where I work now I just said “Fresh Foods” as if my firing never happened. Then told me of another colleague who became a supervisor at a nearby store who herself had made the transition from movie theater to grocery store which is also a “Fresh” location.

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* Funny thing is this same day I ran into one of my former supervisors who just so happened to have lunch with another former colleague at my former “Fresh Foods” store. They were seated at the coffee bar and I just so happened to be walking by they saw me through the windows just as Cliff did near “The Show”.

The former colleague we’ll just refer to as Jill was the one whom I msg’d on FB when the proverbial guillotine fell – i.e. the day I was let go. I predicted to her that “Ruthless Roger” may not be there in six months. While I felt it was erroneous to put a timeline on Roger, something told me he wasn’t going to last. Though I will say the justification for the six mos period was that I could reapply by that time.

It was through Jill’s status msg on FB that I learned that Larry was coming back to run my old dept at “Fresh Foods”. She didn’t just give a casual yes when I asked if Roger was gone it was an emphatic exclamatory Yes! She was the first one to report to yours truly that Roger has been demoted, gave his notice, and then quit within a matter of days. Unfortunately I’ve heard other versions of what happened with Roger which my former supervisor would state during my impromptu visit.

* Upon entering the store for the first time since the “axing”, my first comment was in reference to Larry coming back – “So we’re getting a real manager now!” . The supervisor asked me if I knew Larry was coming back, my response – “Exactly why I’ve reapplied”. I did tell them I have applied to come back though my 6 mos period won’t be over until April, however, if only they could justify bringing me back now. I’m ready to get back to work today (remember this was back in February)!

I tried to be somewhat careful about my comments with the supervisor, however, he did let out amazingly that now without Roger in the dept things have eased up a bit for them. Ahhhh so Roger was the reason for the same old b.s. that another colleague referred to back in December.  An old adage is proven true, it all begins at the top doesn’t it?

Anyway, while I decided to direct the comments towards the roughness, the supervisor even admitted it was a little bit of bad associates and Roger’s mgmt style. While he complimented Roger’s knowledge of the rules and regulations of the company he just had no idea on how to run a kitchen. Even threw out this idea of he’d have been better off being a manager at a slower store. I can see that, he was an assistant mgr at a much larger dept in a larger store and it begs the question what was he doing while he was there. My parting comment on this is that having that experience at this other store didn’t translate into moving successfully into a higher role at my former store.

* Jill didn’t say a whole lot about Roger other than how she knew it wouldn’t last. Isn’t that funny I could see it, she could see it, a lot more of us in the dept was beginning to see it. Perhaps it was him being by the book or some of his goofy rules or goofy changes. For goodness sake he even decided to change the format of the schedule from what we were used to. If that wasn’t a sign of where he priorities were I don’t know what is. It was almost like he was trying to reinvent the wheel now that he was our boss.

So the verdict Jill who in my msg last year referred to Roger as a puppet after I referred to him as  goofball she knew how the dept was turning out. She was grasping straws while I was still there when she referred to how we’re not getting our profitsharing or the dept isn’t making any money perhaps even more interesting Roger doesn’t even know how to cook. She was complaining a lot more than she should’ve, but she realized that he likely didn’t know what he was doing and his installation as our boss was for show.

While Jill and the former supervisor were further discussing Roger’s old store and how huge it was this was where I figured out that yours truly became the third wheel in their convo and cut my unplanned visit short. Told them in a fit of confidence that I will talk to them later. The supervisor even suggests I get in touch with Larry and get the process started on my return. Even gave me the exact date when Larry will take over the dept.

* Incidentally, my former store is not far away from the theater where I frequently watch movies. In fact if I get an early shift that ends at about 2 PM or 3 PM you will find me at the show on any given Friday, Saturday or Sunday to catch the latest releases. It also helps when I don’t yet want to go home, especially since my mother is now retired. Even though I have no job at the moment I still take the time out to watch a movie.

Whenever I approached the theater I made great pains for a while to not go anywhere near there. For the most part my path kept me across the street from the front and side windows lest I be seen by a colleague or even Roger himself. As a matter of fact, not longer after my last day at the store I saw Roger outside on his phone probably on his break and about to go back inside. I was a good distance away from him when I did and wondered what would happen if I got close to him. I’m glad that there is no answer for you here in this post.

Would I have gotten mad if he spoke? Would he just pretend he didn’t know me? Would I have remained civil? For me I’m OK with the fact that I just maintained my distance and just went into the theater nearby to a watch a movie on that day. Besides I would like to come back to “Fresh” why would I jeopardize that?

Like I’ve said since the “Breaking news” post my goal right now is to return to “Fresh Foods”. So hopefully the next time you see anything about my former employer is that I’m back. It will be then that I will discuss Roger further and at that point hopefully I will be summoned to return!

Isolation

I think this describes my situation:

It’s especially difficult to find a partner if you don’t like to go out much.

Redditor ShakerJew explained that they think they’ll stay a virgin for a while:

“I have no clue how to advance relationships beyond friendship … I’ve never even held anyone’s hand… I’m not ugly at all either. When I see people in a relationship I just think ‘Wow that must be nice but that is not for me, I can’t have that. I must deprive myself of happiness.’

User another-redditor3 echoed this sentiment:

“Not much of a story really.

I’m 30, unemployed, live at home with my parents and have nothing that even resembles a social life. I talk to friends online once every few weeks or so, but it’s been 18+ months since I’ve seen any of them in person.

As for interests/activities, the few things I’m interested in are solo activities, or male dominated.”

If you’re not interested in checking out new places to meet potential dates, that’s cool. Focus on your own fulfilling hobbies.

Now I got to think, what kinds of hobbies can I get into where I can meet people. Perhaps I can join a college alumni group who will on occasion support the sister “Hillman College”. Perhaps I can take some art classes or something like that. There is something I can get into that will enable me to find this fabled companion or at least meet new friends.

Are nice guys really that bad?

I think of myself as a long way from being a nice guy. With that being said those who are, probably have been subjected to women who are for whatever reason difficult to please. Perhaps the list I found was legitimate in some respects others are just plain nitpicky.

It’s a case of what do these woman want to be satisfied. They may never figure it out and probably will have to go through some serious changes to determine that. In my case there were a handful of situations where I simply lost my patience with particular women.

more original photos. what do you think?

Olloclip-iPhone-7-21 i’ve been going around using my iPhone to take some shots around chicago. i want to punch this blog up with shots that i’ve taken. i wish i can share with you some archival photos at least those that i have never before published. time will tell on that.

although to be sure i can share more current photographs of the city as i see it. perhaps you may see hints of where i formerly work or even where i do work now. to be sure i may never identify any of those places as such but you may see them.

oh not just places i have worked certainly places i have frequented over time. i hope you enjoy the new presentation.

besides once a commenter suggested seeing a photo montage from the “mid-thirties virgin” although now it’s the “almost 40 virgin” at this point.