Savings revisited

The post that I wrote over a year ago with that title is a tad tongue in cheek with the added reasoning, that I saved some money at that point in time. This whole episode started off strange and took place during the time that the Hustler started working at The Show over nine years ago.

I probably could’ve revisited this odd episode last month but never got around to it, and note I went through a whole month without mentioning him. Either way it was strange to see a graying older man working with us in uniform at that point in time. Yes we need to work and get a job where we could find one, however, how did things kick off in the long run he found out about me and I let him in.

Allow me to state admittedly the video is a representation of the “let me in” phrase. More than it’s meant to represent the Hustler. What I will admit though is that in my post at the end of last year about his last attempt at contact I had referred to him as a fiend as opposed to being a friend. Moving on…

I told him about some minor aspirations I had while we were talking, he seemed strangely curious about me in the beginning. He wanted to know why I never got promoted there, well to start aside from trying to be a “crew leader” the year before evidently they weren’t hiring for that at all. I also learned at various points during that year after his arrival that he was under consideration for a supervisor role, more on that later.

Anyway my tactical error in the beginning was I gave him a ride home in my mother’s vehicle. For whatever reason it gave him license to ask a number of very rude and personal questions such as “How old were you when you lost your virginity?” He knew I got a degree from a liberal arts college and indicated that I was interested in teaching and remember I just met him “NO! You can’t handle it!” Those were two moments that I could’ve kicked him right out of the car and left him on the expressway to figure out for himself how to get home, but I didn’t I went to his house on the east side of the city.

As I got closer to his part of the city I remember that he complained on the way about all those shuttle buses along the way. There was a concert taking place at an abandoned property the city hoped to redevelop and those buses were there to take care of those people. He had nothing positive to say about that at all. I dropped him off and just remember yours truly had to work with him.

At some point we exchanged facebook friend requests and phone numbers because I didn’t mind being a good coworker. I might need something and as it turned out he needed something. He did call me one evening before coming into work and he was already going to call in a favor, he wanted to borrow some money.

This is where I send you to the Savings post to see the story itself. I just wanted to give some background on the situation. Now I want to give you a conclusion of what happened in the weeks afterwards.

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Well, I didn’t work too hard at reconnecting with him. However, I was never forceful as far as telling him to buzz off, he kept finding reasons to come around. One day on the floor he walked right up to me as I was on my cell phone at that moment, I look up and he asked with some emotion “Why don’t you speak to me?” Translation, you owe me your time and I demand it. He reminds me that I have his phone number and facebook to be in touch.

For the most part I avoided him after that and one night he just walked up to me and asked for a ride home. I gave him a ride home, again had no real wish to say no. The fact that I left him at the theater after asking for some money should’ve gave him the answer he needed but we’re talking about Planet Hustle. That was when I told him I shouldn’t be driving anyone home in my mother’s car per her instruction he seemingly understood, but was later able to get that privilege back. There was a period of time where I limited my interactions with him but if that paternal instinct kicks in he’ll come around.

As stated the red flags were flying and in light of the changing situation at the job during that particular summer I ignored them. He served his purpose during that time, but found myself wondering if he might have indirectly caused some things. He’s not particularly loyal unless he’s getting what he needs and even then he’s still not loyal. Should’ve learned Jack V…well it took some intervening issues years later for me to realize this.

What helped to turn the situation around for the next year was his plug to be a theater manager at a neighborhood cinema. I put my eggs all in one basket for that one and didn’t get it – the start of the streak era. One night we were working and we were discussing future opportunities with this local theater and out of nowhere he states “I just don’t get you

At that moment I look back confused and he stated “Sorry for changing the subject, but you keep pushing me away”. I would say this was the moment the distance began to change. He didn’t want any distance and largely we got closer.

Between summer of 2011 and roughly into the fall of 2017 with him around were some odd years. I’m still learning to beware of who I allow in my space and what information to share. And thankfully this has been one year where as far as contact it’s been largely quiet from him.

Oh wait, forgot to explain. I heard various things about Anthony becoming a supervisor at the Show especially from Henry’s crew. Who knows how far that could’ve went but I’ve heard more on that from Ant himself since we both left the Show. He attributed never getting close to that role as they couldn’t control him. He also let out that he wanted a certain wage in order to take on that role. Remember he likes to negotiate and insure that others know to negotiate as well. Evidently the bosses at the theater said never mind.

Either way I had to explain what I wrote earlier in this post without having to later write another post about the Hustler.

“Truths never told”

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During my 6-month-hiatus from Fresh Foods I admitted that there were a precious few people I told about my situation. For example, I told Keith from The Show the story about what happened and even told him what happened with the man who I initially pointed the finger at (i.e. he got demoted and resigned was my story at the time). I saw others from The Show and I never told them just kept the status quo story that back then I still worked for Fresh. I never even told Henry as we were still in some form of contact, just saw no need.

Well I got another truth I never told. Well I definitely never told Anthony about my situation as I wouldn’t have heard the end of it. He’s such a loud mouth staking a position but has no basis for it. I got even more news for you as much as he had something to say about my switch from Gotham Bank to Fresh Foods I ever told him that I lost my job there as well.

I also never told my mother that I had interviewed to return. The interview I had was’t very good with an assistant store manager – he was in the office when I got let go. He probably didn’t remember me anyway and had a bad impression once I interviewed. Like I stated earlier perhaps it was just a personality clash we weren’t going to mesh well. Although my initial impression of him was he may be rough around the edges but he seemed approachable. However my approach didn’t work.

I tried to get some updates from one of the supervisors and got shut down at which point I realized it was time to let go. He later on admitted that the fact that I didn’t get hired was odd to him. He probably didn’t understand the decision making although in reality as much I tried to keep up my optimism it was the interview that tanked my chances. Whether on his part of my own it just wasn’t good.

I often still say that it would’ve been a great story for me to return to the Hole after 6 months away. Return to the “scene of the crime” as it were and go back to where I started. It wasn’t to be and it only opened the door for an opportunity elsewhere. I wonder if I’d have been such a drag if I had returned talking about that /goofball during the course of a shift. I’m sort of glad it didn’t happen.

Now, if I did return it would be a vastly different situation than I had left. Many of those characters I knew back in the day are now gone dispersed elsewhere or out of the company altogether. If I tried to return two years ago with some form of familiarity, now I just have to treat it like a new situation.

Incidentally I talk about some aspects of the background of the “reign of error” with my mother. I told her that I had applied two years ago to return, but never that there was an interview. Told him that someone who still works for the show now including a supervisor had tried to put my name forward and nothing came of it. In reality I had an interview and nothing came of it.

Either way before the episode On the spot, I had made an attempt to return to the store that I got hired at Fresh Foods in the first place. Instead not getting this opportunity allowed me to take on an opportunity anyway. Although as I’ve often said as of late it’s far more likely that I’ll return to the Hole than it is for me to return to The Show.

Boundaries

I saw the Mr. Rogers picture recently A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood. I have a greater appreciation for the contributions to children’s entertainment that Fred Rogers made. The show he headlined for many years was truly ground breaking and Rogers set out to do something different from the children’s TV programming of his day that he found horrible.

Tonight’s musical interlude that you will see in the video below. What would you do with the mad that you feel?

The movie itself is really about the journalist who profiled Mr. Rogers for his magazine as much as it was about the famed children’s entertainer. I feel as if Rogers probed the journalist as much as the journalist probed Mr. Rogers. It’s almost as if he knew to flip the script on this supposedly tough journalist who in the picture is portrayed as an investigative journalist who didn’t like doing “puff” pieces like this.

The funny thing is Rogers requested this journalist he knew the types of articles he wrote. He knew this wasn’t a typical assignment for him and by the end of the movie the dynamic was much different. I’m sure the journalist tried to keep it as an assignment and instead perhaps it got much more warmer than that.

Well some aspects of Mr. Rogers’ behavior in this picture gave me some flashbacks. Perhaps I had my own situation with that and in this case while I do believe Rogers is the real deal, the other end of that situation was the real deal in a different sense. He knew what he was doing and why he was doing it. He may have stumbled into it with no advance anything, but once he realized what was up he tried hard to force himself into my own personal space.

I wrote about that individual quite a few times on this blog and have portrayed some of his antics as that of a disappointed father. It didn’t take much for him to make it seem like I failed at whatever tasks that he wanted me to finish. It could be dating, job hunting, on the job although he’s not my boss, or just life in general. There was always a problem for every solution, my solution was often inadequate.

Sometimes you have to realize what someone is trying to do. My mistake was that I wasn’t as forceful in enforcing my boundaries. I allowed him to think some of this actions was OK. He didn’t deserve an opportunity to not only engage in time sucking, but monetary sucking also. He also doesn’t deserve the opportunity to engage in energy sucking.

So for the picture which I hope you will see in the near future these are my thoughts on it. It’s a great picture to go see at the theater to learn a tad bit more about a man who was a part of so many of our childhoods. I have a greater appreciation for him and perhaps someone like him is out there who is genuinely concerned about people and young children.