dating advice

on occasion i talked of men that i know of who’s mind is on chasing p***y. for example my friend anthony who does on occasion show me pics of grannies he claimed to have f***ed and done some nasty s*** to. and honestly i don’t want to hear it from him.

now i can’t say for sure that he chases p***y to the extent that mr. wayne talks above. anthony is not the candy and flowers type or at least he never talks about it, he certainly has little problem chasing women though. looking at how he would aggressively “drool” over any good looking woman who crosses paths with him even if he doesn’t talk to them.

as for me, i had attempted to chase p***y on occasion especially back when i was still in college. i really wanted to get with a “hillman” woman although with a select few i’m still in touch with them today. i suppose doing the chasing did me no good, especially with nicole for example. though certainly what must happen to connect with a woman, hopefully she has an attraction for you, and then the two of you are together. perhaps not exactly in that way, but get the picture connect then the magic happens by her actions and certainly by my actions.

hopefully you enjoy this advice

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the dating dance

allow me to admit, that when it comes to women i haven’t played my own cards right. you’ve seen it on this blog admittedly a number of failures on my part when it comes to women. however, i do consider myself among those men who these very accomplished women overlook.

i would love to have a professional woman as my girlfriend, however, one of my problems have been how do i get one. i had the opportunity to utilize a matchmaker and i’m just not going to bullsh*t you, she seemed disappointed. she realized i wasn’t a catch for any of her older and professional clients. and although she offered her services at a charity rate, other things going on in my life caused me to not take her up on her offer. although to be fair, this was a blow to my ego it seems i have a far worse issue on my hand and this matchmaker was one indication.

regardless i’m a virgin and yes i did or i have believed in marriage then sex. how many of those women would value that? who would value the idea that a man would save themselves? i’ve met people who couldn’t understand that and met with ridicule, even then my only handicap is that i’m not known to date.

as steve harvey indicated, these women are looking for men who make more money than them and they’re looking for corporate execs like them. they don’t want a man who perhaps doesn’t mind staying at home and tending to the house and children – not that i’d want to and if i did there will be a side hustle. perhaps these women set the bar so high for a mate that no one met them back in college and now they have to play catch up and the clock is running out!

btw, MGTOW 101 is the name of this youtube channel to the video you see above. “men going their own way” eh? i wonder what this is about and the above video is one indication i suppose.

this time five years ago…

going back roughly five years ago and noted here last year i had an mgmt interview at a neighborhood movie house. as indicated it never occurred to me that i’d never get it. when you think about it the owner i spoke to back then was a bit all over the place.

i was super confident thanks to anthony who was also in the process. he got further than i did and still walked away without a job because the owner had some issues that cost her a portion of her business. since he has a head for drama he found out through his intelligence that the owner wasn’t running tight ship and drove her subordinates crazy.

i said at one point that i really needed this one as this would’ve been one immediate escape from the show as my position seemed to be deteriorating there. this was true due to a variety of somewhat self-created calamities. regardless for this reason and others this was the greatest disappointment i ever experienced. this was one i believed was in the bag until she just came up with the excuse of candidates with significant management experience. it was quite awhile and certainly even after other things came out in the press that i got over it.

i was hyped up by my experience at a downtown movie theater even though i never moved up to as much as a supervisor. i had some experience at least operationally but i was untested. of course i missed out on other things that probably would make me an even better candidate. somehow i got an interview – perhaps with the intervention of the talkative anthony – and no job offer. as it turns out the first of many over two years that resulted in no job offer.

anthony of course wound up not getting the job for himself. while he went forward for the position of general manager…and that’s another thing the posting to her company’s social media never specified the level of managers they needed. the posting only asked for experienced managers. for all i knew she was looking for middle managers in addition to general managers if you will.

anyway he was getting frustrated with a lack of responsiveness thanks to his need to follow up. thanks to the news he quickly found out why she wasn’t in a rush to get back into touch with him. unfortunately what need is there to hire new managers when the business you had was effectively cut in half?

even worse when i sent in my resume to that company she seemed to have pushed the deadline to interview further back. that is she certainly kept me and others waiting until she was ready to interview. still she kept anthony waiting to give him an up or down vote.

well of course with all this in mind i was still there at “the show” for two years, but this was an experience i learned from. never believe the hype and never be surprised when you don’t get the job. always come prepared for an interview – hadn’t brought any resumes with me expecting she’s have my information right in front of her. much later another takeaway was that i certainly showed my inexperience as far as becoming a manager never having that experience.

another takeaway for certain. perhaps  i wasn’t ready for this job and with that in mind if possible never look to another job to escape the one you already have. when you think about after almost two years of looking while at “the show” every interview was a potential escape and ultimately i escaped to a job that proved not to be a very good fit.

incidentally i’ve had other opportunities to interview at least for a theater manager at a national chain – whom i eventually worked for on the lower rungs of the ladder – and of course i interviewed to be a supervisor at a “Fresh foods” store. and at this point i’m largely still growing to the point where it’s possible that i can grow into such a role at the right time and hopefully with the right people.

perhaps this wasn’t a bad experience afterall. also later in wrapping up the storyline involving the show, i would like to explore why yours truly was never promoted at “the show”.

may 2007

so i go way back for this one 10 years ago. so the actions set in motion from this period would likely set the tone for the next 7 years at least. i will begin to explain.

i was at “mission college” still plodding and largely floundering. i was actually a senior and it turns out i won’t be graduating that spring. i had my ass handed to me in several of my courses during the course of that year. mostly Fs with a splash of D’s and D+’s. and by the end of this summer i would be kicked out of school again and had to fight my way back.

yeah remember that brief blurb i wrote about a girl named nicole (yeah the post involving my cousin) well during that period i had also been kicked out of mission and appealed for re-instatement. i chase after some woman and got nothing for my troubles and almost lost my opportunity to get a degree from this prestigious college.

all the same i made quite a few key mistakes and paid for it with bad grades. i was lucky to come back out alive the next semester when i fought my way back in with an appeal armed with a spreadsheet determining which grades should count. if only i was that much of a genius so that this didn’t happen in the first place.

now why this sets the time tone for the next seven years – from 2007 to 2014 – because this would be the one time i just said fuck it. i was finally alright with letting this go. no more designs on getting a prestigious degree from “mission college” and i could jump start my life during what was left of my 20s. just come home and start job hunting and get my life in order.

while this life wasn’t exciting it was unconventional. this also would mean no more looking at those “hillman college” women as a college student. no more student loan debt, studying, expensive books or even courses made difficult.

i can only imagine what i would’ve done if i never got reinstated. i know i’d be looking for another job and i’d have to explain what happened with my school. why i never finished my degree and better yet where have i been since i really hadn’t held down employment. i’d have been a very risky hire surely.

then i wonder if i’d have found myself at “the show” and perhaps i’d be in a better situation in my early 30s if i had never finished at “mission”. to be honest i have little idea today. if graduating from “mission” was my goal i reached it to my surprise…

the scene

movie-camera

the scene i want to show starts with me going to my interview heading into offices that appear to be closed as it’s after hours. until i find someone to ask about my interview. then we quickly flashback literally to the day before.

the day before i had gotten fired from the bank. no dialogue other than one of the branch managers saying “Jack, can I have one word with you?”

then all the principals of this scene go into an office where the door closes and then we go back forward to the next day. it’s after hours and i’m about to have an interview. a little nervous because i feared that i may have lost the job before i got it. ah well.

questions for the interview of course there are questions about experience. also questions about my hobbies and what are my passions. questions about my view of what the company is about and what they offer. in addition we talk movie theaters as that’s where most of my background is. just some points to write-in dialogue. what you should get from this is that the interview was a success as it turns out.

only thing is….it’s ambiguous as well we won’t see the hiring. we just see the smiles, the handshake, and then perhaps a security guard saying you got the job – a gut feeling. and then based on the notion of they want me to interview with other people.

in the meanwhile we flashback to the bank branch. i was walking from the facility for the last time. you see the virgin walking away from the inside not looking back.

a bad ending and a new beginning. sometimes i really enjoy thinking about that instead of the negative things. it’s something i hope to share in a video form one day.