Cynical

Excuse me for scoffing at this articlescoffing at this article and confirming for me that women will fall for anything. According to her this man had a plan and eventual realized his ambition. And at that, I will admit he took a risk in quitting his full-time job for his dream.

The yeah right about this is this woman who says she’s quite a catch based upon her job and career she found a man without the good job. He was living in his car and his only employment is an internship pursuing his dream job. I’m happy for this guy for pursuing his dream but now I question if he found the right woman.

Could this be frustration? Could this be that I had nothing to attract a woman with this young lady’s background to me? Can women truly fall for dreamers who only “arouse” their interest when it seems they’re close to reaching them?

This reminds of the movie “True to the Game” that I talked about a while back. A young woman who otherwise knows better to mess with a gangster brother, messes with him. She lives with him and unfortunately is a target of some rivals on the streets. A fictional example of how it seems women will fall for anything.

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MGTOW Virgins

 

Earlier this year I wrote about MGTOW so now I’m somewhat getting back to this. Another brave man shows his face admitting that he’s MGTOW Messiah and a 38 year old virgin. He wants to break down some of the stereotypes. He said this was a choice and it’s not a matter of not being able to get some p***y.

To speak for myself as a man who is in the same boat as him, even though I hit a bump in the road last year I finally got myself in the position where I could do some things. Perhaps take a vacation or take up a hobby or perhaps even start off a side hustle and make even more money. When it came to women I had been in the doldrums because I wasn’t make enough money and had very little going for myself.

Even had someone like Anthony who just took a serious issue with the fact that I work with a number of women whom I could be trying to talk to. It seems to him I’m just not interested and sadly he won’t accept that for a great many of them that I really wasn’t interested. In some instances I literally blew it by some of my actions though in others some of their actions made it very easy for me to stay away from them.

All the same I like “Messiah’s” style just do you own thing and go your own way. In my case as stated already I long for that special person to come around. Just hope I’m open enough to “shoot my shot” as it were. Though as is the case for the formerly unfortunate male virgin I may need to find a strategy away from online dating. It hasn’t worked for yours truly either!

She Will Resist

I think once anyone decides they’re entitled to sex should realize this is the price. She will resist you, no harm in this. The key is to not allow this to become a problem for you. Of course also realize when you won’t have a chance.

PUA Lifestyle

It’s a woman’s job to resist your advances. It’s your job (the man’s) to try to break through that shit. You even see that daily in the animal kingdom: the feline resists the male cat by hiding and fighting. The mare horse (female) kicks, bites and runs from the stallion [so as donkeys]. The bitch puts up resistance against the male dog.

This is seen all throughout the animal kingdom. Humans, as advanced beings (mammals), we exhibit the same behaviors as other animals. Hence, the female resists us, she runs from us (physically and otherwise), she fights our advances and she does whatever she can to ward off potential mates (males).

With that understanding, it behooves the shit out of me why men seem to think that a woman playing hard to get is a sign of disinterest. SHE HAS TO PLAY HARD-TO-GET! IT’S IN HER GENDER ROLE AND HER…

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Awkward

I orignally wrote this post back in 2016 and for some reason I took it down. Now it’s back. Of course with some minor edits!
mr-bean-face-703x350This awkward moment I never told until now. Sometime last year at my job I ran into a woman who I had a tendency to poke on fb and messaged once with a tepid thank you reply. I never went got much further than that, but I’m sure I sent a friend request as I often did and got no response and quickly forgot about it.

Not long before I left “The Show” I had ran into her. Found that she had eventually moved to Chicago and she was right in front of me. Being the person who has this great ability to dwell on past events no matter how inconsequential I basically avoided her behind the concession stand as she stood around with a friend. It seems women rarely go out by themselves…

Let’s fast forward a year she shows up in my department one evening before closing and I realize she’s not a shorty. Hoping that my coworker was available to take care of her I grudgingly had to help her. Yup still me dwelling on past inconsequential events.

Anyway she requested some ingredients on an item she had been interested in. Provided those ingredients and then she wanted to sample them before she made her choice. I served her wanted to know if there was anything else she needed offered her a sample and even stated she’s free to sample the next time she dropped by. She just simply stated that she was on a diet before moving on.

Such an awkward moment, but I think it was handled professionally. The dangerous part is attempting to reach out to her and the possibility that now she knows where I work can cause some problems. Thankfully so far I have yet to see her again so that’s a plus.

Forgot to note this connection…this young lady also went to the same all-girls school – Hillman College – as janice, nicole, carina, and jennifer.

Virgins

The Formerly Unfortunate Virgin Male recently had an interview with Eve from her blog Unleashing the Cougar. A comment she made on this blog made an appearance as one of the questions for Tommy (the former unfortunate virgin male) to address to which he gives a pithy answer.

I recommend you read this month’s entry to his blog. It’s spring well he might have more of a spring than I am in Chicago, however, he’s still doing things for his enjoyment. That’s what life is about you have work and then you have play. And as happened with Tommy, things happened for him as he explored on his blog. If you haven’t checked him out lately plz do.

On the virgin front, I haven’t really found many blogs on virgin women. And while it seems far more acceptable for a woman to remain “untouched” if you will some may view it as a little strange especially if you go beyond a certain age. Just take this segment from Steve Harvey.

With this said, even though she hadn’t posted in a while Krysta is a virgin who has a blog. She admits somewhat to why this has happened in this post – I’m an adult virgin. She does in other posts talk about her relationship history and if she’s face with situations such as this, I understand why she remains if you will “untouched”. Perhaps Eve should find a way to be in touch with her.

A bad romance film

Last summer, I saw a movie True to the Game. It wasn’t that good of a film that could be a described as a gangster romance. A young woman named Gina trying to finish college with a major of English literature attracts the interest of a very violent drug dealer Qadir who’s looking to leave that life. Unfortunately something drags him back into it and on occasion Gina is involved (for example kidnapped and held for ransom) and is left screaming when a rival drug dealer looking to make his mark shoots her boyfriend to death.

It lets me know women can fall for almost anything. She was guarded with him at first, however, she valued him for giving her HIS time. Their relationship was passionate with it’s own starts & stops as with almost every relationship. Ultimately before his murder she was ready to tie the knot with him as he attempts to leave the criminal underworld. I was amused when some young woman who was thirsty for him was often blown off until he finally tells her it’s over and was later prevented from confronting him by one of his right hand men.

The story for this film seems disjointed and as a sense of closure part of me wanted to see Qadir’s killer himself consumed by revenge on the streets. Instead we see Gina mourning although she finally has the ability to leave her neighborhood behind after effectively being ejected from Qadir’s fancy house by his distant mother. It was troubling to me that Gina’s family seemed a lot more accepting of Qadir even if they knew what he was doing. perhaps that’s just reality.

I hated this movie, because I hate the idea of a woman falling for a man who is a criminal. Of course what she fell for was his soft side, however, if he’s involved with drug dealing he can’t be that soft. In the case of Qadir and Gina it resulted in her kidnapping because his rivals knew how to get to him, and of course as happens in that world you have to find away to “get your lick back” so to speak. Alas the cycle continues until Qadir gets his later.

Also I don’t want to be too unfair here, Qadir has the right to leave that lifestyle. Actually in real life I would root for someone who left the life of crime. I may never view him as an honest man after this, however, it’s a good thing when anyone leaves the underworld so that they can live honestly. I respect that and perhaps I shouldn’t be hard on Gina for choosing to be with him.

Then again at the same time some women like to save men. Bad boys need saving unfortunately it doesn’t always take a woman for a man to decide that it’s time to leave that life. Unfortunately women who want to be the savior get hurt fooling around with those men who are in the underworld. Conversely if an underworld man has a fearsome reputation and likely a lot of money there are women who care little about saving their man but very willing to take advantage of the perks of being an underworld kingpin’s girlfriend.

I know that’s a lot of analysis and most of this has little to do with me. Besides I’m no criminal and have no need to be one. I could whine & talk about girls to start back in my high school days  would overlook me for the thugs. The again at that age what do the girls know – especially if they’ve been exposed to that underworld life.

Regardless my goal with any woman – especially the ones who aren’t of that age where they wouldn’t be influenced by a bad boy or a monied criminal – is to be the best man I can be. I don’t have to be a thug, then again I need not be a nice guy either. Perhaps I can still live my life with conviction and hopefully be with a woman who who respects me and loves me for my honest convictions.

Strategy

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Heh, you know this post could be about finding out what works. Believe it or not I have gotten phone numbers off dating apps. Mostly I’ve been texting with the women and usually nothing pans out. I seem reticent to even ask for dates or even to call these women up. Though as of late I’ve gotten some play with younger women say about 19, 21 or 23.

I’ve taken an interest in a 19 year old girl more recently although she says she isn’t always on the app. I was persistent enough to get a response from her and thankfully she hasn’t cut ties yet – though this means nothing since she could always choose to not respond to me even if she hadn’t unmatched me. Anyway she and a number of other young women on Tinder has thrown this word at me, sugar daddy.

Ah remember that I looked into that and said this wasn’t the strategy for me. I’m nowhere near the income level to become anyone’s sugar daddy. I don’t yet earn six-figures or more to even think I can afford these girls who only want to look at dollar $igns. They want to look fab with nice hair, clothes, shoes, phones and of course taking care of their nails. Sorry young women I’m just not going to be that guy….

Of course I have my idea on how to sidestep that – yeah I may have a high fail rate with this. Perhaps I can be that man who can treat them well whether or not these girls are 18-19-21 or even in their 30s. Maybe I need a woman who’s largely established herself more than anything at this point, however, why not play with these young girls who don’t yet know what they want yet.

Of course why do I expect a fail rate, because some of these girls aren’t yet looking for a guy to treat them well. When you’re young and having fun the last thing that these young people are thinking about is being serious with anyone. They probably aren’t think about marriage and family I would dare say they may not even be thinking about school. With my experience it was something even I took for granted going to school since it was just so expected. If a girl is under the age of 25 she hasn’t figured things out yet to the extend that I probably would like to. I didn’t have it all figured out at 25, actually still haven’t.

I suppose on this front the way I see it, if I spend money on any woman my goal is to keep her. The catch 22 is I can spend all the money I want on her, however, even this won’t be enough. Perhaps I don’t give her enough attention, perhaps I’m too old, perhaps she’s decided I don’t make enough money, etc. Who knows what they excuse could be although I could figure out how to stick them with all the bills if they want to get rid of me!

Though I want to admit that it’s only fairly recently that I began to amass my resources with the job at “Fresh Foods”. Benefits in addition to higher wages, and perhaps in spite of my current situation – which I will continue to update you all – some growth I could continue to make more money and amass more resources. And most of this is mostly benefits yours truly, that’s the only person the resources should benefit. Of course anyone who wants to be part of my ride they can be part of it and it won’t be an “arrangement” for their benefit without me getting something in return.

Though that the thing about sugar babies, they want a man to give and give nothing in return. I’ve met people like this in high school and at “The Show” – I can’t characterize most of them as sugar babies but the mentality isn’t much different. Regardless many of these sugar babies don’t recognize it until their sugar daddy tries to go for something that they were expected to receive anyway.

If you’re asking me how yours truly could handle this situation, all that can be said is that I haven’t figured it all out yet. A young girl over the age of 18 is unsure of herself and I wouldn’t mind being that older man who could show her how she should be taken care of. Then again I realize that I also have to learn – remember my inexperience. My theory on these many women on Tinder is that they may not entirely know how to relate to men and they know men – especially young men their age – have needs. Those needs will ultimately intersect, however, they will have relationships at some point so that’s something they have to learn to navigate without any unreasonable expectations.