odds & ends

img_1368sometime in august i ran into a coworker from the “dine-in show”, francis. he seems depressed over the recent changes at the dine-in since i left them behind in summer 2016. it’s safe to say that he’s got some of the complaints that i have now about some of the changes going on at both of our jobs.

to which i say will say in the last post i did about my current job, most of that information may not necessarily be correct. most of this is nothing although i know one thing the new boss for my dept. at “fresh foods” is certainly bringing in new people to the right positions, especially people from his old store. he’s entitled to do that, but imho it seems somewhat unfair. he’s also entitled to make some changes also. things change and it won’t likely won’t go back to what i’m used to.

anyway back to francis, he was helping out at my usual theater – the one i may go to when i get off work in early afternoons. he was merely helping out as most of the associates there were to attend a beach party. i asked him if he thought to transfer but he seemed reticent – he could at least stay in box office at the dine-in, however at this theater he likely would have to usher or do concessions. he’s not excited about that and yet he doesn’t like his current theater now. the company he currently works for has opportunities for him to move from theater to theater and to even get promoted he should find ways to take advantage. meanwhile i also made sure to give him the rundown on “fresh foods” and got his e-mail just to send some jobs his way.

* incidentally since maybe earlier this year one of the new managers over there was a manager at the dine-in show. i’ve been applying to this theater for years and have been not smart enough to blow off the phone calls or i never heard from them. actually i told one story about getting a call from there and i just procrastinated!

all the same she’s there now and knows that i come to the show there. so if i wanted a second gig another possibility here. though the question is whether or not i should take advantage and just ask about my application. at least this time my availability won’t be an issue this time since now i mostly work mornings. i also plan to adjust my availability to make this so!

alsoĀ  find out that she’s essentially THE senior manager there. to explain at this company the senior manager is essentially the theater’s assistant general manager or the equivalent at “the show” the house manager. when i refer to a senior manager at “the show” i basically refer to salaried managers who have far more responsibilities that include hiring and firing than the supervisors.

with this in mind if working at this theater was something i truly wanted i have an in. hopefully she would be receptive to me coming on board there knowing that i work nearby at “fresh foods” and i’m often there at the movies.

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*as far as a blast from the past i ran into my former boss at another local “fresh foods” store. it was unexpected he said he was there helping out which is always good. he especially helps out in the dept where he made his name. as of now he remains an associate store manager at another location not this one i ran into him at, but another location which recently opened.

we talked about this store and how much sales it makes per day. even some positions that had opened up. i let him know that i’m giving the new regime at my store some time before i decide to make a leap. although the real reason for giving myself some time was some of the attendance issues i have right now. i want one to clear by february before i start applying to some jobs. i may discuss more about this in greater detail in a future post.

the old boss understood, but remembered some of the “job dialogues” we’ve had. incidentally he suggest going for a buyer position to move up. even said at that store a supervisor position is opening up and even if i chose to go for neither and still come over as a regular employee i’d still be considered a leader there. and it’s great to know he’s still speak up for me if i ask. although i also realize i got to tell him about some of my attendance issues. he can speak up for me but that’s all he can do! i indicated interest in touching bases with him and that will include any future positions i apply for.

* at the job now there is some drama which is funny because here i used to really hint at the drama that occurred at “the show”. really it’s teenage girl drama by those who come there only to stir trouble around them. of course this time is more adult drama that is really about the job.

i wish i could tell the old boss that one of his replacements is shaking things up, which is his job, but it’s something i’m not happy about. also some of his star players no longer work there and as per the new boss. also the new boss essentially is bringing in people he knows to the main positions in the department.

i also wish i could tell him that the guy who helped train him – as per an email that was posted not long before our old boss left our store – well he’s not happy. he’s worried that his coworkers and manager are talking about him behind his back. i also wish i could tell him that as a receiver the new boss elected to push me aside for some vague reason although i now know that it’s to put in people he knows. again that’s his prerogative. what i didn’t want to do is make this situation so negative that he begins to wonder if i’m as much the problem. besides his view of me having a good attitude is what allowed him to hire me in the first place!

* btw, i’m not finished talking about “the show” yet. basically my timeline had been thrown by things that i wanted to discuss hopefully by the middle of the month or end of october “the show” storyline will basically come to an end. no use in discussing old drama that i won’t likely revisit.

hopefully i can come up with that next great puff piece about my time there will be coming along when i finally let this portion of my life go. and believe me i cannot wait!

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you make the call!?!

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now that it is football season – and i rarely watch football anyway – it seems appropriate to bring this back. this time it’s under slightly different circumstances unlike the first post of its type which involved candice.

anyway this time it’s mary jr. or as i could call her ms. thickems. unfortunately there won’t be an opportunity to follow-up with her although the last time i saw her at work i mostly avoided her. bottom line she no longer works at my store a disappointment, but eh she’s someone i would describe as “perfectly imperfect”. not a supermodel, but her physique was an attractive one.

all the same before the end came for her at work, i picked my spot with her. essentially i just went for it no pretend, no chat, just went cold. and it started with her noticing that i was there later than usual. for most of the past summer i had been working early mornings doing receiving and with me being a creature of the night crew for the most part she noticed. every now and then made reference to it.

she pointed her laser thermometer at me on this particular evening and it caused me to ask her, “you want to be my fb friend?”. once it dawned upon her what i was asked she slowly stated “i don’t use fb”. with that said i knew she was somewhat lying, she’s on fb or otherwise i wouldn’t have asked. of course this doesn’t mean that she spends that much time on that site. i accepted that answer and as far as my schedule told her that’s going to change i may be there later as time goes on and then awkwardly walked away.

now knowing that she has a number of social media profiles i could just start following her or add her. on the other hand i believed it was better to ask her before i do. it was definitely a goal to see if she was ever thinking of me in that way. as i started she’s not the finest thing like wine, but she definitely “perfectly imperfect”. i’d definitely open my mouth to be fed by this think and bubbly young woman.

so you make the call. should i follow up? should i just leave her alone at this point? just let her be now that she’s no longer employed at “fresh foods”?

it’s candice’s turn…

img_1148-1in this post i’m going to discuss some remaining business and analysis regarding candice. you first read about her in a post titled “you make the call” and generally shows my response to her sudden interest in me one summer when we both worked at “the show”. it left me very uncomfortable in some respects and she was very determined to keep my attention until she stopped.

in later posts i referred to her as missy’s good buddy. missy was the one-off foe who spend the remaining time she had at the theater powering tripping because of her “connections”. with this in mind i now consider missy & candy (hey that rhymes) something of a one-two punch or good cop and bad cop – hint missy was the bad cop.

to illustrate this point one-time outside of a auditorium as a movie let out missy so incensed or out of control because i ignored her for most of my shift said one infamous thing to me and far more infamous than a threat – “if i’m a bitch, then i’m going to be a bitch”. candace was that probably not egging her on, though certainly not trying to calm situation down and besides i wouldn’t pay a whole lot of attention to her anyway during that time. regardless missy lost all control and as she lost it i strove to maintain my own. she wasn’t going to get me to say anything i didn’t want to and whatever i was going to say was going to get her going because she was already there.

now, candace was essentially laying down a welcome mat for reasons only she knew. when i tell this story to some of the young men i work with they don’t understand, the opportunity was presenting itself and you wouldn’t go for it – you BLEW it. it never got through that perhaps i had little interest in her and it was largely based on her young behaviors and certainly what i see as her aggression in trying to get my attention.

i have one theory as far as why everything happened and i’ve deduced it to one night that summer – before “the show” got particularly busy later that summer. the move in question on that evening was the purge and she – as far as i knew just arrived on the scene at that point. i walked up behind her, perhaps got a lil too close and told her to turn the radio down. unfortunately we didn’t have ear-pieces for the radios like most other businesses that uses walkie-talkie. we had to remember when we walk in a theater to turn them down while a movie is playing.

soooo i think at some point as the theater let out and we began cleaning we talked about the job and then forgot all about her. the girl in question somewhat matches my basic description of candice – a young girl (19 or 20), nice body, long real hair – that she probably put into a pony tail, and a nice face for sure. perhaps it set her interest signals off and in the meanwhile i just thought not much of this after that.

of course as stated in that long ago post she spoke to me as i rushed to the time clock having been running late and after blowing this off she walks up to me and blocks my path as i attempted to go around her. something really set off in her mind after simply not realizing or knowing that she was trying to speak to me and i didn’t speak back to her. basically this started a long summer trend where she tries to speak and i generally don’t respond. occasionally i’d just engage in sarcastic behavior finding it amusing to myself but not to her as she really wanted to talk to me and all i did was push her away.

one particular part of this story i noted was that a supervisor said hello to me as the theater was shutting down for the night and i spoke back. candice was behind concession and was upset that i spoke back to the supervisor – and this is because i mostly don’t just say hello back to her. she was seen just twisting and turning because of my general response to her wasn’t different than my response to the supervisor. in fact, the supervisor did ask, “why are you getting mad candice?”

one part of the revenge candice offered was one night when i had to close the floor at the theater. i left my walkie at the customer service desk thinking i didn’t need it anymore. minutes later candice who was off duty for the night came and found me and made sure i got that walkie back because another one of her buddies a supervisor decided that i needed a radio. as i complained she walked off without a word just back turned and probably satisfied with my response.

this other supervisor was a loud mouth and sometimes didn’t seem to have a steady mood with me from day to day or moment to moment. eventually after basically sh*tting on another associate at the theater she got herself fired. there is an official reason, but allegedly i can say she really got fired for treating someone badly.

one final moment not before mentioned. one day candice and two other young women were often seen huddled around auditoriums before the movie starts. everyone wasn’t supposed to be together like that. and one of those women were supposed to be doing rounds about the facility with me. and she didn’t like to do much work anyway – even if later she expressed interest in becoming a manager and it never happened.

either way this young woman asked if i was doing this, that or another and i simply said yes & no as i kept walking past the sisters. candice jumped on this immediately saying something undecipherable, and certainly it was about what i just said. another young lady who witnessed the whole convo – and whom i never said a whole lot to – simply chimed in with “he’s got a smart-ass mouth”. before i wrap up the storyline i’ll introduce you to her this particular one is called the “bullshark”.

otherwise after this candice and yours truly never had words cross paths with each other again and incidentally the next year i saw her on a train as i headed to the north side. i figured out who she was seeing some traits that reminded me of her and it certainly included a tote she often carried with her to work. if we made eye contact she’d immediately break it, but message clear that wasn’t the time to make a connection with her. she headed north and i got off at my stop.

now jack, why had you been responding to candice that way?

to be honest i kept doing what i was doing because it amused me. i never saw what i was doing as a rejection and it never occurred to me that candice would simply leave me alone. that being said her behavior was somewhat aggressive on some level especially the time she snapped at me behind concession as we both had customers to take care of – that was patently aggressive. otherwise her need to keep my attention was definitely aggressive and i wouldn’t respond to her.

as much as i characterize my response as a non-rejection it was certainly a reaction. remember i’m in my early thirties college graduate and working with young people who are still developing at a movie theater. here she comes matching me move for move repeating that “you know you heard me talking to you”. that behavior didn’t compute and any other times after that i just simply decided she was trying to hard and perhaps she did have an agenda. but then this agenda is really an unanswered question. was she really interested in me or did she really want to add to the gossip? btw, any gossip about me my goal was to remain blind and i tried not to care unless someone just mentioned it to me out of the blue.

now that i’ve grown a bit such then i did consider looking for candice on social media. the only social media i see her using is instagram and she had exhibited – because she’s young still – the need to show herself off. when you think about it most young women do like to show themselves off. i suppose the only question today is if she’d remember who i am and if she would ever connect with me on instagram. perhaps then i could attempt to explain some things as back then i had no willingess to explain some of my actions to her. besides my actions should speak louder than words even if they had been uncalled for.

all the same i’ve never really came up with a very satisfactory answer as to why i kept blowing off candice. to use the whole standing in my path thing was a bit of an excuse more than anything. to be sure it was irritating at the wrong time given my situation, but of course she may well have seen it differently. obviously there was a reason why she wanted my attention. and as stated once the more she continued the more sarcastic and oblivious i became.

one more tidbit here one time i was off of work and switch from my cap and uniform shirt and as i walked from locker room candice saw me and attempted to speak. she tried to compliment my hat but to whatever she said i basically kept saying “what?”. another coworker off to the side obviously saw this whole convo as awkward. candiace had to stop and say “i’m complimenting you” or “why are you being mean” or even at another point “i’m trying to talk to you because you seem like you need a friend”.

btw, in anger even missy said to me during her out of control moment outside of an auditorium, “you need a friend jack”. almost as if saying – and this was long before i ever started having real issues with colleagues at “the show” – that something was brewing and i had little idea.

all the same her reaction summed up her attempts to be friendly with me back then. i was being “yours truly” at the time, and she was essentially being pushed away for her troubles. as it happens for the most part when her attempts to reach out is rebuffed she often gave an exasperated expression before she just moved on. when i walk off with no word, exasperated. when i get sarcastic, exasperated. an odd cycle i established…

as far as ever finding a way to reach out, my only answer is that it’s probably not a good idea at this point. she’s likely moved on and forgotten about me probably found others who were more willing to give her the time of day. hell she actually did allegedly find someone who would give her the time of day while still at the show. and she had her supervisor call off for her when she failed to report to work on one occasion allegedly.

all the same it’s a lesson learned and perhaps i treated her quite unfairly. candice really wasn’t a problem, however, her approach of the time being a young woman just wasn’t appreciated. on top of that now I consider this a sign of my now growing frustration with my role at “the show” and candice was likely going to have a difficult time breaking through.

more positivity at “the show”

i want to promise you all that october is almost here and next month we will be getting back to the present day. i also promised to discuss my senior year of high school and what i failed to do back then. meanwhile i still continue to talk about “the show” and winding down this storyline.

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in writing this post, a friend challenged me to write a “gush piece” about the theater with whom i formerly worked for almost five years. the last positive post i tried to do never lived up to that. it was as positive as i could get – well i believe. there are more positives to discuss. not entirely certain that yours truly could write a true “gush” regard the place i once called “sh*tplace”.

to this day i have a number of “promotional materials” including two oversized movie posters that for the time being remain in my closet. i would like to one day frame them and display or it’s possible someone would buy them. there are other much smaller posters that have yet to be displayed. unfortunately many of these posters are for movies that weren’t that popular with few exceptions although the two oversized posters are for major film franchises.

one of the senior managers – on the advice of anthony – hooked me up with them. cool gesture and at least he didn’t d*ck with me on them – he remembered and delivered. incidentally this senior manager who was a point as far as the facility, later moved on to a similar role at a national theater chain and especially with the dine-in show that i worked at for 8 mos. he’s one of those who could’ve treated me like a pariah – not just disdain but also indifference – and could pick up with “where are you now”. btw, two senior managers got thank you notes before i finally worked my last day at “the show” unfortunately this senior manager never got one.

anyway, i have plenty of t-shirts some of which i wore heavily. only one was for a major film franchise – well taken in fact – and how that became a franchise is one hell of a question. i have coasters for a new dolby system set up at that theater. i have some hats for two major film franchises and even a lang w/ card for yet another film franchise. for the most part however most of these trinkets, weren’t for movies that were particularly popular.

it’s possible that there could’ve been more except most of the managers who thought little of the employees would typically hog these items. they’d lock em up in a closet where we would find them later anyway. in some cases we’d slyly take them home with us although some were bold about it. it could’ve been one way to say thank you, but as i said most of us were an afterthought.

regardless one of the more prized treasures i got from the theater were two oversized movie posters from a major film franchise thanks to someone who didn’t treat me as an afterthought. i was also so lucky because this particular film – even though it was updated for the new century – had little interest to the teeny boppers. they didn’t think much of it and thought it was for the lames. their loss! šŸ˜›

positive tales of working at “the show”

it seems most of my posts about the show with few exceptions have been negative. i noted on occasion that many of the people i met were quite cool and they were a joy to work with. not only that many of us will speak say hello and many even ask what are you up to today. generally cordial, the trouble makers will often avoid saying much to me they either know they will get a chilly reception or they may just have their own odd issues still – whatever those are.

sometimes though a busy cinema is exciting, the activity is important to a business any business. although this activity can on occasion bring out the crazy in some people. there are high maintenance people out there who are already on edge about something and they need to bring out out on someone. sadly i have been on the receiving end of this. sometimes the wrong managers take advantage and decide it’s ok to talk sh*t.

even though i returned to the business briefly with another company at the dine-in show i still miss the screenings. when some promotion company organize a free advance screening for a coming attraction. those are cool the worse parts are insuring customers choose their seats and getting everyone lined up. like i said the crazies come out not just on the weekends for new movies, also for these screenings.

there was once an elderly woman who waited long for a screening. she complained to us though there was little we could do other than tell her someone else makes the call to let customers in. she was so upset she announced she’d never come back to our facility again. to be fair to “sh*tplace” it was not necessarily our fault that she had to wait until the promo reps allowed us to move the line forward.

i never understood finicky people over their food. people wanted a “fresh” frozen pizza or a pizza that was less burned. funniest story about that i had a customer who looked at their pizza gave it back to me later claimed it was burned. one minor problem though i never challenged them on it, the pizza wasn’t burned at all. it was all just an excuse! in this case i put it back in the warmer and it was quickly sold – so no small fortune was lost in this process. šŸ˜›

want to hear an odd story about a “secret shopper”. one weekday after school was out for the year we were swamped with families and their children. a temperamental woman was virtually hissing at another lady claiming “i’m next! I’M NEXT!” it didn’t matter though all registers had no line.

this same hissing made some noise getting our attention “HEY HEY HEY HEY HO HO HO HO”. she only wanted to tell us that our containers for salt were empty and that she’s a secret shopper and they pay attention to that. this woman merely wanted attention! >-(

our theater was a zoo with all types of people. women wanted to see the movies they wanted to see and often gravitated towards feminist or romance cinema. we got young people or young people from the “hood” who often gravitated towards horror, action or comedy.

we also had the people who were just out and decided to drop by the theater and had little idea what to see so often we had to answer questions about what the movies were about. one infamous question with regards to this is a vague “what’s good?” or another infamous question “what’s scary?” oh and i forget sometimes we get hit with a scent of marijuana because some people come in after getting a hit. and of course that’s not to say people whom i worked with didn’t smoke that stuff, and for the record i’ll only smoke that if i’m terminally ill. sorry tmi and hopefully that never happens.

finally i just want to say it never occurred to me how they show the pictures. most movies before the 21st century used film reels provided by the distributors. “the show” used hard drives that were delivered to them often via a courier. so if there were any issues, a computer could be used to fix them. sometimes a lens had to be changed especially for a 3D movie. since my role at “the show” never could include projection this was not something i concerned myself with much unless a customer’s experience was somehow impacted which either meant a customer complained or i knew there was a problem already and was proactive about getting it fixed.

one thing i will say about my time at the theater, it gave me an invaluable experience especially when it comes to dealing with people. and with this in mind it includes both coworkers, managers, supervisors, and customers. as much as i may say i had a not very good experience, perhaps i’m a long way from saying that i’d have done something different other than how i’d approach the situations i found myself in there.

positivity

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on this blog i sometimes talk about positivity though it seems as if i never practiced enough of it. i’ll admit that it’s my tendency to dwell on some of the negative incidents that have happened in my life. unfortunately “the show” is no different as it took up a significant amount of my time.

so allow me to be somewhat positive about my time at “the show”. as much as i dwell on those incidents with rambunctious and very take charge young people who were very willing to let you know to your face that they don’t value you as a coworker. there are some positives and as often stated i’m often in touch with many of these individuals from “the show”.

some were cool and good to talk with even if on occasion what i may be saying isn’t what they want to hear. and yes some of them – like anthony – has the tendency to want to take advantage of the situation. i’ll still say that it was worthwhile knowing them and even then if it wasn’t for anthony i may never have started looking for another job even if it took over two years to finally leave the theater.

there were many good times there and often with the right people. i also miss the occasions where i drove to work with me sometimes taking alternate route too and from work. also i’m lucky that no one knew to do something to my mother’s vehicle especially if i raised the ire of some many at the job. on top of that many of them decided i wasn’t going to do much about it.

the ones i did well with i try to bring them with me although many have so far not took the plunge. some have found better positions and that’s definitely a good thing. many of them it would be cool to bring them with me to my current job and beyond.

if you’ve read this blog you got to know anthony a little bit. an outspoken older gentlemen who means well but seems to have the ability to talk down to people. on the other hand he’s a bit of a fighter who looks at the big picture. through him i knew about the ways “the show” used obamacare to cut hours. he was good at learning the lay of the land there in ways i never considered. when we first met he came on strong and caused some distance and still can come on strong.

there’s a man named henry who we’ll meet again in another post. he was very good at his job to the point where he often was an usher on weekends and was an unofficial trainer. good to talk about and also knew the lay of the land. on the flip side, he sure had some drama in his life if you judged my his fb page years ago. he left and found another job months before i had.

also there a man name keith who became a manager within months after i left. he gave me the definitiveĀ  low-down on what it’s like to move up to the supervisory level not long after he got fired. the worse thing about his termination was that the people he thought were friends were the ones who turned on him and helped get him out. he probably still hasn’t figured out why they did what they did. as happens with young coworkers in a place with no structure at all!

there’s an older lady name kristi whom i worked with the first two years. i haven’t stayed in touch with her much over the years although i gave her a quick update on what happened at the show since she left. which managers got fired and moved on. she was a cool ally to have and it’s too bad that she left the job due to illness.

those are just some examples. i texted keith once not long after he left “the show” that i’m very glad i never burned bridged with everyone. i began to believe i was that bad, then he concurred with my next statement “the people who worked with whom bridges were burned were just looking for excuses.” so i could dwell on the negative aspects, but what i will choose to do from this point forward is to remember those i worked well with!

also i forgot to add with the many managers and supervisors i interacted with – which does include someone like harve – i’ve offered thank you cards to two senior managers who were helpful during the “streak era”. unfortunately neither are no longer at the show, although with one i have his phone number and perhaps i should just dial him up in the near future.

september 2014

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little did i know at the start of this month that the “streak era” was about to end. it all started two years before with the interview at a smaller theater chain who had some background issues and cost me a potential mgmt position. lately i started getting interest from banks especially “gotham bank”. i had an interview to start off this month which unfortunately resulted in no job offer.

meanwhile the previous month i had started working on my smile. i started off with some deep cleanings although now the plan was for me to eventually pull out the loose and failing teeth. yeah in my early 30s i will eventually receive false teeth in the form of a flipper and eventually a dental bridge. it was past time as i just put it off until it was really time and kept getting embarrassed over it. one way to look at this, as i continue to interview for jobs i can at least finally look my best in addition to a visit to the barber and dressing professionally.

anthony had started campaigning again for me to work with him at his “finer foods” store on the northwest side. i had somewhat brusquely ignored his suggestion that i speak with the hr person at his store. it was as a result of an attempt to interview with a store manager who on the day i went up there early one morning instead was meeting with his district manager. anthony yelled at me on the phone for not following up and i avoided him for a while until i found something i wanted to talk about only for anthony to simply pivot without response to my subject about what happened with “finer foods”.

this time i didn’t turn it down, simply just wrote this down though with little plans to follow-up with this. as the summer began to wind down i was getting interest from jobs although for some i opted not to respond to all of them. going up to my “friendly” martial artist store on the northwest side actually remained near the bottom of my list considering what happened earlier that year.

as far as “the show” nothing of great note happened. i got called out by mgmt for taking too long on my breaks, which i blame on my general unhappiness with my job at the theater. the senior manager who wanted me written up for it was up my *ss for some odd reason anyway, but became strangely cordial after i finally handed my two week notice. i gave her an excuse and as often seems to happen she wants to get tense.

there were other minor incidents with coworkers, however, nothing much really happened. as much as i hate to tease you all, but these involved individuals who remain non-descript with not a whole lot to distinguish them. and i also attempt to bear in mind their general youth.

however by the end of this particular month – little did i realize – my time at “the show” was drawing to a close. also i finally got started on improving myself by working on my long suffering smile. and set me up eventually for another job i will get by the start of the next year. no one could’ve told me that the job offer i accepted wouldn’t work out for me.

bottom line the streak era after so many interviews with no job was finally ending in october!!!