I wrote a two-parter about this two years ago. It was basically about this period of time where I was still at The Show and still looking for another job and Anthony presented himself to help me get a job with this grocery store I call Finer Foods. It really began perhaps in January or February that year and his store actually called and I got sidetracked because Finer’s corporate starts blowing up my phone wanting yours truly to interview for one of their newer stores. Thinking that this would be a closer option than where Ant worked, I went for the newer stores.
Long story short that didn’t work out for me. The interview didn’t go well as much as I tried to keep up my optimism and at one point tried to get Ant involved. He didn’t take the bait just gave me a terse answer and my response to that was to forget about it. It was maybe a couple or more weeks after his contact had called me to interview. Strangely enough after that he started blowing up my phone and often sent texts asking “What’s going on with Finer’s?” He just had a one track mind about that until I was ready to talk about my frustration with the job search that was getting to me and it was in my head that he was the answer. True to form he swung that convo right back to what happened with Finer’s and I had told him about the earlier interview.
Well as illustrated in the two part story it wasn’t smooth sailing at all. I made a phone call to his folks up there at a Finers store he claimed to be working at. Ant hit me with a quick “interview” question when he called me at random a few days before that “interview”. He was making plans as if he was my boss and we had a nice convo and then it was time to interview for real. Well hence the title of this post and the earlier two-parter there was no interview. I essentially got blown off by the store manager with whom I was going to interview. It’s accepted that something came up, a higher-up came by for a walk and that threw things off. I was very unhappy and frustrated with that though shook hands with an associate who gave me this bad news and left the store in a huff…
Well I told him that day in a text and he still wanted me to further explain. As in the text telling him the store manager was instead meeting with his bosses instead of interviewing yours truly. When we finally connected his question was “what happened with the interview?”. Well I never really had the chance to really tell him when he hit me up. He started interrupting and asking questions until he found out that I never really followed up with them. I had no reason to in my mind, they said they’d call me they never did. I also had no interest if I had called them set up an interview and still got nothing. It just wasn’t worth it.
So basically the gist of this anecdote is that he just dug right in on this. He was just very intent on getting me refocused on trying to follow-up with them and get an interview. Letting me know to call his contact at that store, the contact who called me to interview in the first place and chose to interview elsewhere. Basically he made up his mind seemingly that this was an opportunity I must not only pursue but this was an opportunity that I must be successful in.
There was another opportunity he tried to get me to partake in a few months later which also resulted in no job offer – at a “homegoods” store. At least with that I could say there was an opportunity to actually speak with a manager which was termed a screen ultimately and sadly no job offer as a result. And of course he wasn’t as all over this as he was insistent on Finer’s. He made some assurances that I’d hear from them which never happened and with that as Finer’s suggested yours truly should call them if I never heard from them.
Of course as I get other interviews primarily with banks, and when we started talking again I’d update him he decided to bring up Finer’s one more time terming it as “I really need you to call [his Finer’s contact]”. I wrote the name of his contact and the number to the store down just to move it forward and never do. By October of 2014 I finally do get a job offer to Gotham Bank after a number of interviews with different branches for that company. And that’s with no help or intervention from the man I often refer to as the F
It’s amazing that although I left the bank after a brief period of time and Ant benefitted somewhat from my gains at Fresh – because he tends to beg – he still decided at random one day when meeting with him that he still had to ask regarding Finer’s “Whatever happened with that?” Attempting to cut that off I tell him I told you about that a long time ago and he still insisted “Well tell me again”. Well there’s a tell isn’t it, it was going to kick off something that would last through at least the summer of the “Calamity of 2017”.
I feel as if his insistence on going to Finer’s then and by 2017 goes to his dominance and control. I was doing pretty good at Fresh Foods and all the sudden it becomes “I think you’d like Finer’s better” or “If you come to Finer Foods you’d make more money”. He’s very easily dissatisfied pick any job I knew that he held after leaving The Show he would leave a job quickly because something happened that got him upset. Then he might turn around and tell me “I need some money”. Though to go back to his dominance, he knew he could get in my head and often it would be difficult at times though not hard enough where he’d let it go. I mean he is bullheaded…
One theory I have which I explored earlier in the year is that perhaps he got tired of how much it seemed I liked it there. On my end there was often a lot of good news though are there some negative things that happen of course and often I overlooked that. At the end of the day yours truly got what he wanted after many years of “flat wages” where my pocketbook begins to expand. Perhaps he was envious that yours truly was seemingly gaining some momentum as he himself begins to stagnate (yeah don’t really know if he is, but easy to judge if he comes around looking for a small cash infusion).
Perhaps also in his need for dominance and control a lot of this was for yours truly to be beholden to him. That yours truly must owe him for his help or advice, even if that advice didn’t result in any real positive benefit. Whatever yours truly does it must suit his own sensibility and yeah there is a history of that. He could be as bad as a meddling relative who insist they have your best interests at heart and will go buckwild and get involved without your permission. Though as I had to learn later he has a funny way of deciding what he needs to get involved with. And another part of his history is that a lot of it was really self-serving and especially once the red flags started flying around.
So either way whatever was going on here was all about him. I didn’t really want to push back on him, but I also had to learn pushing back may not change things if he simply made up his mind. So perhaps back in 2014 he just made up his mind that I needed to follow-up on Finer’s and it still didn’t work out the way he wanted it to. He couldn’t slow down when there was just no effort on my part to really follow-up after things didn’t work out the way I wanted it to.
And now, we just have one more post about that for a very brief time a very strange ongoing story.